Complete Relationship Report
for
Jill Ireland & Robert Wagner
by Astrolabe Inc.
Text
by Joan Negus & Dorthy Oja
with
Patricia White
Report
Prepared by:
Awakenings, Inc.
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Composite
Chart Positions
Planet Sign Longitude Declination
q Sun is
in n Pisces 27` 35' 33" +12` 59' 00"
w Moon is
in d Gemini 28` 01' 48" +24` 25' 00"
e Mercury is
in n Pisces 22` 24' 10" +19` 13' 00"
r Venus is
in n Pisces 19` 16' 04" + 5` 14' 00"
t Mars is
in n Pisces 24` 42' 46" +16` 57' 00"
y Jupiter is
in n Pisces 15` 19' 19" -22` 42' 00"
u Saturn is
in b Aquarius 13` 27' 50" - 6` 07' 00"
i Uranus is
in a Aries 22` 03' 38" +12` 54' 00"
o Neptune is
in h Virgo 8` 22' 44" + 7` 09' 00"
p Pluto is
in f Cancer 21` 33' 42" +23` 16' 00"
l N. Node is
in n Pisces 6` 49' 30" -23` 16' 00"
j Ascendant is
in x Scorpio 7` 37' 20" - 8` 49' 00"
k Midheaven is
in g Leo 18` 02' 20" +20` 09' 00"
$ Chiron is
in s Taurus 26` 38' 00" +17` 37' 00"
Composite Aspects
Sun is Square Moon The orb is 0` 26'
Sun is Conjunct Mercury The orb is 5` 11'
Sun is Conjunct Venus The orb is 8` 19'
Sun is Conjunct Mars The orb is 2` 53'
Sun is Semisquare Saturn The orb is 0` 52'
Sun is Sextile Chiron The orb is 0` 58'
Moon is Square Mercury The orb is 5` 38'
Moon is Square Mars The orb is 3` 19'
Moon is Sesquiquadrate Saturn The
orb is 0` 26'
Moon is Semisextile Chiron The orb is 1` 24'
Mercury is Conjunct Venus The orb is 3` 08'
Mercury is Conjunct Mars The orb is 2` 19'
Mercury is Semisextile Uranus The orb is 0` 21'
Mercury is Trine Pluto The orb is 0` 50'
Mercury is Sesquiquadrate Ascendant The
orb is 0` 13'
Mercury is Sextile Chiron The orb is 4` 14'
Venus is Conjunct Mars The orb is 5` 27'
Venus is Conjunct Jupiter The orb is 3` 57'
Venus is Trine Pluto The orb is 2` 18'
Venus is Quincunx Midheaven The orb is 1` 14'
Mars is Trine Pluto The orb is 3` 09'
Mars is Sextile Chiron The orb is 1` 55'
Jupiter is Semisextile Saturn The orb is 1` 51'
Saturn is Square Ascendant The orb is
5` 51'
Saturn is Opposite Midheaven The orb is 4` 34'
Uranus is Sesquiquadrate Neptune The
orb is 1` 19'
Uranus is Square Pluto The orb is 0` 30'
Uranus is Semisquare N. Node The orb is 0` 14'
Uranus is Trine Midheaven The orb is
4` 01'
Neptune is Semisquare Pluto The orb is 1` 49'
Neptune is Opposite N. Node The orb is 1` 33'
Neptune is Sextile Ascendant The orb is
0` 45'
Pluto is Sesquiquadrate N. Node The
orb is 0` 16'
N. Node is Trine Ascendant The orb is
0` 48'
Composite
Planets in Elements and Modes
Fire : ik Total = 2 Weighted Score = 3
Earth : o$ Total = 2
Weighted Score = 1
Air : wu Total = 2 Weighted Score = 8
Water : qertyplj Total = 8 Weighted Score = 24
Cardinal : ip Total = 2
Weighted Score = 2
Fixed : ujk$ Total = 4 Weighted Score = 10
Mutable : qwertyol Total = 8 Weighted Score = 24
Weights
Used Above
Sun = 6 Moon = 6 Mercury =
3 Venus = 3
Mars = 3 Jupiter = 2 Saturn = 2 Uranus = 1
Neptune = 1 Pluto = 1 N.
Node = 0 Ascendant = 6
Midheaven = 2 Chiron = 0
Synastry Aspects
Sun is Sextile Moon The orb is 2` 54'
Sun is Square Mars The orb is 1` 39'
Sun is Trine Saturn The orb is 3` 47'
Sun is Trine Neptune The orb is 1` 51'
Sun is Conjunct N. Node The orb is 2` 26'
Sun is Trine Midheaven The orb is
1` 41'
Sun is Conjunct Chiron The orb is 5` 29'
Moon is Trine Sun The orb is
2` 01'
Moon is Trine Venus The orb is 2` 53'
Moon is Sesquiquadrate Mars The
orb is 1` 04'
Moon is Semisextile Pluto The orb is 0` 53'
Mercury is Square Sun The orb is
1` 18'
Mercury is Trine Mercury The orb is 5` 46'
Mercury is Square Venus The orb is 2` 09'
Mercury is Sextile Pluto The orb is 1` 37'
Mercury is Opposite Ascendant The orb is 3` 03'
Venus is Sextile Sun The orb is
3` 58'
Venus is Sextile Venus The orb is 4` 49'
Venus is Sesquiquadrate Neptune The
orb is 0` 40'
Venus is Square Pluto The orb is 1` 03'
Mars is Square Sun The orb is
4` 07'
Mars is Square Venus The orb is 4` 58'
Mars is Sextile Pluto The orb is 1` 12'
Mars is Opposite Ascendant The orb is 5` 52'
Jupiter is Sextile Sun The orb is
3` 18'
Jupiter is Semisextile Mercury The orb is 1` 09'
Jupiter is Sextile Venus The orb is 2` 27'
Jupiter is Semisextile Ascendant The orb is 1` 33'
Jupiter is Sesquiquadrate Chiron The
orb is 0` 43'
Saturn is Semisquare Mars The orb is 1` 04'
Saturn is Trine Pluto The orb is 0` 53'
Saturn is Trine Ascendant The orb is
3` 47'
Uranus is Sextile Moon The orb is 1` 50'
Uranus is Square Mars The orb is 2` 42'
Uranus is Semisextile Jupiter The orb is 1` 06'
Uranus is Trine Saturn The orb is 2` 43'
Uranus is Trine Neptune The orb is 2` 54'
Uranus is Conjunct N. Node The orb is 1` 23'
Uranus is Trine Midheaven The orb is
0` 37'
Uranus is Conjunct Chiron The orb is 4` 25'
Neptune is Sextile Pluto The orb is 3` 40'
Neptune is Conjunct Midheaven The orb is 8` 11'
Neptune is Trine Chiron The orb is 4` 23'
Pluto is Opposite Mercury The orb is 0` 04'
Pluto is Trine Ascendant The orb is
2` 39'
N. Node is Semisquare Sun The orb is 1` 01'
N. Node is Opposite Moon The orb is 0` 25'
N. Node is Semisquare Venus The orb is 0` 10'
N. Node is Quincunx Jupiter The orb is 0` 20'
N. Node is Conjunct Saturn The orb is 1` 18'
N. Node is Square Uranus The orb is 1` 51'
N. Node is Trine Neptune The orb is 4` 19'
N. Node is Trine N. Node The orb is
0` 02'
N. Node is Semisquare Ascendant The orb is
0` 44'
N. Node is Trine Midheaven The orb is
0` 48'
N. Node is Trine Chiron The orb is 3` 00'
Ascendant is Trine Sun The orb is 1` 51'
Ascendant is Square Mercury The orb is 2` 37'
Ascendant is Trine Venus The orb is 1` 00'
Ascendant is Sesquiquadrate Jupiter The orb is
1` 09'
Ascendant is Square Pluto The orb is 4` 46'
Ascendant is Semisextile Ascendant The orb is
0` 06'
Ascendant is Semisquare Midheaven The orb is
1` 37'
Midheaven is Opposite Mercury The orb is 4` 45'
Midheaven is Opposite Mars The orb is 2` 42'
Chiron is Sextile Uranus The orb is 4` 43'
A Comparison of Your Charts
This astrological report takes a look at your birth charts to see how the two
of you would be likely to interact in dating, a love affair, or, especially, in
a long-term partnership like marriage. Its purpose is to make you more
conscious of what’s really going on between you. In the pages that follow,
you’ll get a better appreciation of what each of you wants and needs when you
pair off with someone else. Regarding your relationship with this particular
partner, you’ll see strengths that you can cultivate, and also be alerted to
possible problems that could get in the way of your happiness.
If you see problems, don’t
worry. Almost every astrological combination has both positive and negative
possibilities. The important thing is to be aware of them. In this report
you’ll see that when faced with virtually any so-called problem between the two
of you, you have a choice of desirable and undesirable ways to act. This report
will try to show you where the problem is coming from, and suggest constructive
things that you can do. It will also alert you to the strengths that you can
build upon to create an increasingly strong and satisfying relationship.
What You’ll Find in This Report
In this report you’ll find sections on:
óWhat Each of You
Seeks in a Relationship. We’ll first look
at each of you as individuals. We’ll start with your basic personality type,
and then look close-up at your needs and attitudes regarding romance,
partnership and sex.
óHow You See Each
Other.. How you experience your partner
may be quite different from the way others do. We’ll explore how your vision of
your partner is shaped by the lens of your own horoscope.
óThe Dynamics between
You. For clues about the sorts of dramas
that are most likely to take place between you, we’ll look at each aspect that
links a point in your chart to a point in your partner’s chart. These
“interaspects” will show both the assets and the problems in your relationship.
óThe Chart of the
Relationship Itself. Finally, we’ll
analyze the relationship itself by combining the birth charts of each of you
into a single “composite chart.” When your relationship is well established,
the composite chart shows how you as a couple approach the rest of the world,
and how you’re viewed as a result of being together.
What Each of You Seeks in a Relationship
To find someone who’s right for you and then form a happy and lasting
relationship, you first need to have a sense of who you yourself really are and
what you need and want. A look at your own birth chart by itself will show
where your strengths are and what you tend to lack. It can give you perspective
on your own nature, helping you to make allowances for the blind spots that can
harm your interactions with others. It can also give clues about what sort of
love partner would make you feel most happy and complete.
The discussions in this
part are each addressed to you individually. If your partner also reads your
section, however, it can help him or her to understand you better.
Jill Ireland
Jill
Ireland's Chart Positions
Planet Sign Longitude Declination
q Sun is in s Taurus 4` 21' 59" +12` 59' 00"
w Moon is in d Gemini 18` 47' 53" +24` 25' 00"
e Mercury is in s Taurus 19` 31' 16" +19` 13' 00"
r Venus is in a Aries 16` 51' 33" + 5` 14' 00"
t Mars is in s Taurus 16` 42' 06" +16` 57' 00"
y Jupiter is in c Sagittarius 24` 07' 35" -22` 42' 00"
u Saturn is in n Pisces 18` 46' 59" - 6` 07' 00"
i Uranus is in s Taurus 5` 25' 31" +12` 54' 00"
o Neptune is in h Virgo 14` 14' 04" + 7` 09' 00"
p Pluto is in f Cancer 25` 13' 00" +23` 16' 00"
l N. Node is in v Capricorn 6` 50' 33" -23` 16' 00"
j Ascendant is in z Libra 22` 40' 12" - 8` 49' 00"
k Midheaven is in g Leo 0` 01' 40" +20` 09' 00"
$ Chiron is in d Gemini 13` 25' 08" +17` 37' 00"
Jill’s Way of Relating
Your Basic Personality Type
Before getting down to details, let’s use a broad brush to sketch in the
overall shape of your personality. Without going into particular planets, just
looking at what kinds of astrological houses and zodiac signs are emphasized
can say a lot about your basic character. Also, the signs of the really major
points in your chart — the Sun, the Moon, and the Ascendant (the degree of the
zodiac that was rising in the East when you were born) — can give strong hints
about your basic orientation toward life and relationships.
You have many planets in Earth signs or houses.
The abundance of Earth symbolism in your chart means that you’re down-to-earth
in a psychological sense, too. To take action, you require reasons. To clarify
where you stand and to motivate you to initiate, you like the situation to be
explained complete with concrete examples. Because you wish your actions to be
based on the facts, your insistence on practical reasons for initiating could
sometimes make you seem callous. You may also want to know what’s in it for you
(even though, if the emphasis is mainly in Virgo, you would need to be of
service as well). This, too, may make you appear unfeeling. If you consciously
do your duty, and assist the significant others in your life to attain their
goals, those who are important to you will see you in a kinder light.
It can be hard for you to
take unfamiliar routes, so you tend to be habit-oriented. Though repeated
patterns may provide security, they can also become boring. One way to deal
with this is to make lists of actions you might take, and, among them, consider
some new alternatives. Starting in this way with small changes can lead to
greater moves. It’s also good to have a partner who can help you to stretch
your boundaries without pushing you too far, too fast. Whether you motivate
yourself or get help from others, when change is necessary, the keyword is
“gradual.”
You have many planets in Air signs or houses.
Air people are the thinkers and planners of the zodiac, but not usually the
movers. (Even Geminis, who tend to be physically active, may not be able to
move forward without a master plan.) Therefore, you may spend a great deal of
time in your head rather than making an impression on the world.
Sometimes, though, talking
about possibilities can help to get you started. Verbalizing ideas can make
them take on more definite form so that it becomes easier to take the
initiative. You can either talk to yourself aloud or find someone else who will
listen to you and possibly motivate you to act.
A positive quality of
air-sign people is that they are objective and can understand many points of
view. The downside of this is that you may find it hard to make up your mind.
If there are too many alternatives, you may procrastinate. Try to examine only
two possibilities at a time, and ask others for their opinion. You do want to
make up your own mind, but it may help to weigh the ideas of others with your
own.
You have few or no planets in Water signs or houses.
You seldom rely on your intuition to guide you through life. Also, because you
don’t easily express emotion, you may not seem very sensitive to others.
Contrary to popular belief, however, you do have feelings. You just don’t have
universal compassion, nor are you comfortable in emotional situations.
Therefore, emotional outbursts are not the way to reach you. In fact, if
someone tries to get your attention with tears or anger, you’ll quickly turn
off. If you pick a compassionate partner, you may have to tolerate a little
demonstrativeness, but you also may learn to express your own feelings better.
You have many planets in Fixed signs or houses.
Your chart’s strength in Fixed signs and/or houses enables you to be more
tenacious and persistent than the average person. Once you make a commitment,
you tend to follow through. You may be a bit stubborn, but you get the job
done. If you have a partner who’s also strongly Fixed, your tenacity could make
you an unbeatable pair. Should you disagree, however, be prepared for a lengthy
battle.
You’re usually motivated by
goals. If Taurus or the Second House is particularly full of planets, your goal
may be to acquire possessions or attain sensual pleasure. With Leo or the Fifth
House emphasized, you’ll want to be creative and receive recognition. With
Scorpio or the Eighth House stressed, your end may be emotional gratification,
or you may be driven by a need to probe deeply and analyze what you find. With
Aquarius or the Eleventh House strong, you’re motivated by issues of freedom or
individuality, which may be either personal or humanitarian.
Taurus and/or Second-House symbolism is especially strong.
Sensual pleasures are high on your list of priorities, and you like to have the
very finest possessions. You also want things at the lowest cost, and so you
may search long and hard to find the right item at the right price. Because of
your patience with shopping, you may be considered frugal by some and cheap by
others.
Money matters are not the
only area where you are tenacious. Once a path is taken, you are not easily
deterred, and you usually follow through to the bitter end. If someone orders
you to stop, you’ll most assuredly continue on. However, if someone suggests
that you stop, you may initially say no, but you may change your direction
after carefully digesting the suggestion and finding it practical and in your
best interests.
Your Sun is in Taurus.
Your approach to life is practical and goal-oriented. You like to acquire
possessions, and an offer of rewards is a good way to get your attention. When
you have a goal to strive for, you can work long and hard to attain it. You may
not move quickly, but you’ll move unrelentingly in the direction you’ve chosen.
Ultimately, your persistence will help you to achieve the results you want.
Tenacity is something to be
proud of, and the rewards you attain will testify to your capabilities. But
tenacity and persistence often go with the less admirable quality of
stubbornness. Pay attention to the way you react to suggestions from others. If
you feel immediate hostility and/or say “no” without thinking, there’s a good
possibility that you’re stubborn. A further indication would be if you take
exactly the opposite action to the one suggested, whether you had originally
intended to or not.
A wise partner will
discover that there’s a way to deal with your stubbornness. Instead of ordering
you to do something (which is like waving a red cape before a bull), your
partner should make two or three suggestions, all of which are acceptable to
him or her. In this way, you get to make the selection, and both of you end up
being satisfied. Your partner would also do well to be thankful for your
ability to follow through.
In communicating, you and
your partner should both realize that before you respond in important matters,
you prefer to digest every word that is spoken. Therefore, it’s a good idea for
you to be allowed to think over crucial issues before answering. Concentrate
immediately on the practical implications, and you’ll most likely be able to
respond faster.
Taurus is considered a
sensual sign, so you’re likely to enjoy anything that you can see, hear, smell,
taste or touch. You’ll double your pleasure if you can share your sensual
enjoyments with a partner. Experiencing beauty together, as in listening to
music or eating succulent food, can enrich your partnership and give you both
joy.
Your Moon is in Gemini.
Because you can cover them up with light banter, your feelings may not seem
very deep, and you prefer not to discuss your most emotionally sensitive issues
at all. This attitude extends to your response to other people’s feelings. If
those who tell you their problems aren’t too long-winded, you’re probably a
good listener, and even if their story is long, you have the ability to appear
attentive. But inwardly, your mind retreats from the situation and scampers
about from one interesting thought to another, thus keeping your heart from
getting entangled in emotions.
One asset is that you’re
not considered moody. While there’s a changeability associated with Gemini, it
is slight. For a while, you’re a bit happy, then a bit sad, then a bit angry,
etc. Your moods are rarely extreme and are never sustained for long, so that
others may not even be aware of your mood shifts. Add to this your tendency to
keep your problems to yourself, and you become the ideal person with whom
others want to interact on a light social level.
All of the previous traits
will not only make you popular, but they are wonderfully self-protecting as
well. Your behavior pattern is not contrived. This is just the way you are
externally, and others will experience you as calm, cool and collected. You
don’t allow them to see your sensitivity. They won’t be aware that you’re
vulnerable, let alone know where your vulnerability lies. So it won’t be easy
to attack you on an emotional level. Even if you’re hurt, you probably won’t
let it show. And being thus thwarted, your attackers will be unlikely to strike
again in the same way.
Your talent for masking
emotions can be an asset in coping with the outer world, but it can become a
problem in close one-to-one relationships. Your partner may not be satisfied
with a glib “Of course I love you,” or an amusing story about your feelings. To
achieve the emotional intimacy that your love partner most likely wants, you
may have to do some conscious work.
Here are some hints. First,
you and your partner need to agree that discussing feelings is worth the
effort, and jointly participate in these discussions. Second, keep the
conversations short. Although you may inwardly understand how you feel, you may
have difficulty verbalizing your emotions. If you try to push too hard or too
fast, you may lose patience and revert to your familiar responses. You can eventually
express your deeper feelings, but it’s most effective when done a little at a
time. Third, listen to what your partner has to say, and, here, too, keep your
discussions short. If you begin to shut down, stop, and later pick up where you
left off. Once you and your partner understand and are able to work with your
Moon in Gemini nature, you can deepen your lively conversations together with
the emotions that you have, but seldom share with others.
While the Sun signifies your overall direction in life and the Moon reveals
your emotional makeup, the Ascendant or rising sign deals more specifically
with how you relate to others. The Ascendant shows how you present yourself to
the outside world, while the Descendant (which is always the zodiac sign and degree
directly opposite) shows the sort of partners you’re likely to attract into
your life, and who will make you feel more complete. Any discussion of the
Ascendant (you) implies the Descendant (your other half).
Getting the correct degree
of the zodiac on the Ascendant and Descendant requires that you’ve given your
actual birth time precisely within a few minutes. If you look at your birth
chart and the degree on the Ascendant is near either 0 or 29, it’s possible
that you actually have the adjacent sign rising, in which case the following
descriptions may not fit you so well. Also, of course, the picture can be
modified by planets that make aspects to your Ascendant.
You have Libra rising.
Having Libra rising suggests that one-to-one is your favorite way of relating,
and that having a partner is high on your list of priorities. You operate best
when you have a partner who’s your equal — someone with whom you can converse
and share your ideas and experiences. Also, because you need peace and harmony,
you may bend over backwards to please that significant other in your life.
Strangely, the partners
you’re drawn to will tend to be independent and even bossy. They may also seem
argumentative, and in their rush to do their own thing they may forget the
rights and feelings of others. This is because they’re acting out a side of you
that you tend to suppress. Before you become upset by them, remember that they
can be an asset when the world requires more assertion and aventurousness than
it’s natural for you to muster.
Actually, your Libra-rising
attributes make you ideally suited to dealing with such partners. Your urge for
fairness and equality will tend to keep your partner from running over you
rough-shod. While you can be generous to a partner, it won’t be to the point of
total self-sacrifice. Something inside you objectively notes when you’ve done
enough and it’s time to restore the balance between you. Also, your objectivity
and your penchant for intellectual debate will make it possible for you to air
your differences openly and hammer out a fair solution to them.
To deal with a partner’s
possibly hot temper, you have the advantage of your charm, diplomacy and
inclination to resort to reason. This, and your desire for peace, would tend to
stop you from displaying anger or making forceful demands. You’ll probably be
not only more comfortable but also more convincing if you use these innate
social talents. In these cases it’s possible that your partner could comply
without even recognizing what you’re doing or consciously knowing what you
want.
If you don’t get what you
want quickly, it may be due less to your partner’s resistance than to your own
lack of decisiveness. Actually, although you may not view it that way, when you
need to make up your mind, it can be advantageous to have a direct and forceful
partner. However, because an equal relationship is so important to you, you
could resent it when your partner takes charge.
If this is causing a rift
between you, consider the facts objectively. From your partner’s perspective
you may seem totally inert, and he or she may be making decisions for you
simply out of impatience with your seeming procrastination. Recognizing your
contribution to the situation may help you to remedy it, or at least make you
see things from your partner’s point of view so that you feel less angry.
You may be able to regain
equality in your relationship by striving to make decisions faster. Or you
could appreciate your partner’s taking charge because it takes the pressure off
you. No matter which route you follow, note that, because of your relationship,
you are probably accomplishing much more than you’d ever have accomplished by
yourself.
Your Specific Relationship Needs
Now let’s look specifically at your Fifth House for romance, your Seventh for
marriage and equal partnership, and your Eighth for the closest emotional
bonding, which usually takes place through sex.
Each house brings in a
number of symbolic themes. The sign on the beginning or cusp of any house is
usually the most important, but other signs that fall within that house
contribute other themes. Adding to this mix are any planets within the house,
plus the house position of the planet that traditionally “rules” the sign on
the cusp.
The Fifth, Seventh and
Eighth houses describe both what you have to give to a relationship, and also
what you need from your partner. Problems can arise if you try to manifest all
the themes of these houses by yourself, and also if you expect your partner to
satisfy all the needs that are shown by these houses. It’s important that each
of you try to contribute the various relationship themes that are signified in
each of your charts.
Flirting and Courting
Traditionally associated with amusements of all kinds, the Fifth House shows
how you wine, dine and romance each other in the dating stage of a
relationship. Having fun together in a romantic setting can help to get a
relationship off the ground.
When you’re married, the
Fifth House becomes the place where you refresh and renew both yourself and
your relationship. To keep the spark alive, it’s a good idea periodically to
let go of your duties, play, be romantic and perhaps a bit outrageous. If you
neglect this essential human need, it can be filled by romances outside of a
marriage, risky activities such as gambling, or escapes such as drinking or
drugs, which can also be manifestations of the Fifth House.
On a deeper level, the
Fifth House is where you come to establish yourself as an individual. Through
being brave and taking risks, through finding what activities and people make
you happy, through games and role-playing, and through expressing yourself, you
come to know who you really are. Only after you’ve done this are you really
ready to commit yourself to a Seventh-House relationship such as marriage.
This house shows not only
what you need in the courtship stage, but also what kind of dating partners are
likely to appeal to you.
Aquarius is on your Fifth-House cusp.
For you, romance is strongly connected with friendly social exchange. You may
fall in love with someone who is in your circle of friends, or you may go out
on double dates or consider group activities to be one of your favorite ways of
having fun together. Conversation is likely to be your favorite form of
flirting.
There may also be something
oddball in your romances. One-of-a-kind romantic partners may have a special
appeal, or in your courtship you may like to defy convention. At any rate, you
need to express your own individuality, and you don’t like to bend to the will
of your partner. Indeed, you require a certain a degree of detachment and
objectivity, so that each of you remains a distinct individual.
Pisces is within the Fifth House.
If you’re sufficiently able to establish your independence in the relationship,
at some point in your courtship you’ll feel an urge to merge. You may have
started by evaluating your relationship objectively, but eventually you’re
flooded with romantic feelings which you want the other person to reciprocate.
Fantasizing more about your romance, you may start to idealize your partner
unrealistically, or you may make some self-sacrificing gesture that only
embarrasses the other. If your partner is not behaving according to your ideal,
it can be easy to delude yourself that all is well when it isn’t. If all does
go well, however, fantasy and imagination can bring an unparalleled richness
and tenderness to your romance, and you may feel yourself merging on an exalted
level of emotion.
Saturn, the ruler of your Fifth House, is in the Fifth
The planet that’s traditionally associated with the sign on the Fifth-House
cusp brings in additional considerations. Itself placed in the Fifth House of
your chart, it reinforces Fifth-House themes, making courtship and romance
especially important in your life. You tend to want a partner who is
demonstrative. This could take the form of open affection or lavish gifts, or
possibly both. As long as you receive attention and the setting is just right,
the relationship should flourish. If, however, you feel ignored or taken for
granted, dissatisfaction will set in. If this occurs, you need not just sit
back and complain. You can create your own scenario. To pique your partner’s
interest, try instilling a little mystery into the relationship. You’ll be
putting your talents to work, and you could have fun doing it.
Having planets placed within your the Fifth House adds yet other requirements
for you in the area of romance.
Your Saturn is in the Fifth.
You don’t take relationships lightly. Even early in the dating phase, you may
be contemplating what marriage to this person would be like. Even at the outset
of a relationship, security and dependability are probably important to you.
You may be quite particular in selecting someone with whom you become involved
romantically, and you’ll be realistic in evaluating the character of a
candidate for such a role. Your decision to be involved might be partially
based on whether or not it’s worth your while to do so. You may not experience
the happy fantasy that sometimes accompanies courtship, but your realistic
evaluation could help you to avoid being deceived or deceiving yourself, and
lead easily to the commitment that’s necessary in marriage.
Becoming Partners
Traditionally called the house of marriage, the Seventh House is where you pick
one partner, face each other directly, and work out a relationship of equals
that will endure over time. The Seventh also signifies any relationship where
you confront each other one-on-one or where you’re yoked together and asked to
pull as a team.
To do this successfully,
you need to adjust your own energies so that they find a balance with your
partner’s, and neither person is dominated by the other. This means finding the
right balance between self- assertion and compromise. To achieve happiness
together, you need to deal with differences and resolve power struggles in a
way that respects the rights and individuality of you both. Open communication
is essential. There can be battles along the way, but the goal is an enduring
relationship where the two of you know each other thoroughly and have mutual
trust and respect.
Even if you’re not married
and are in a primarily romantic or sexual relationship, the Seventh House will
be active whenever you try to work as a team, whenever you confront each other
and need to make adjustments, and whenever you each need to get your fair
share.
Aries is on your Seventh-House cusp.
You tend to seek out a partner who is assertive and shows initiative. But while
you admire those who can take charge, you don’t want to be bossed around. At
times you even want to take the lead. This could provoke heated disagreements,
and you may find yourself wishing for some peace and quiet. However, you’d be
bored if your life together were too peaceful. You’d also have little respect
for a partner who didn’t stand his or her ground and allowed you to be the sole
decision-maker.
Actively discussing
alternatives may make you each feel that you’re sharing the leadership in the
relationship. You might decide that one of you should be in charge on some
types of issues, and on other issues the other should run the show. You might
actively negotiate still other issues. If your discussions make either of you
extremely angry, you could more easily make compromises if you walk and talk
rather than sit and glare at each other.
Taurus is within the Seventh House.
You also need a partner with whom you can share sensual pleasures. Problems can
arise when one of you is being totally self-absorbed and self-indulgent without
considering the other. If you’re feeling neglected, never order your
partner to think about your needs. That would be like waving a red flag in
front of a bull, and it’ll produce the exact opposite of what you want.
Instead, suggest two or three things that you’d like to do or to see happen,
and allow your partner to choose among them. In this way, your partner will
have made the decision, and you’ll be satisfied as well. If you feel that
you’re the one who’s been taking the other for granted, and your partner seems
unhappy, plan some pleasurable activities that you can enjoy together.
Practical considerations and possessions can figure large in your life
together, and you may enjoy your joint ownership of beautiful things.
Mars, the ruler of your Seventh House, is in the Seventh
In your chart the planet that is traditionally associated with the sign on your
Seventh-House cusp is placed in the Seventh House. The ruler of your marriage
house being in the marriage house underscores the importance of marriage, or
any other form of long-term committed partnership, in your list of priorities.
In fact, marriage may be so high a priority that you run the danger of
submerging your own personality in order to secure such a relationship and keep
it going. It’s important to remember that marriage is the vehicle for hammering
out a relationship of equals. To be truly married and to have something to give
your partner, you must first cultivate your own individuality and autonomy. In
doing so, you may have to do battle with your partner, so it’s important to
learn how to fight in a fair and open manner, without ever losing respect for
each other. When you find your balance on the seesaw, you’ll eventually learn
to work splendidly as a team.
The fact that your Seventh House also contains one or more planets means that
you have yet other requirements in your close relationships.
Your Sun is in the Seventh.
Having your Sun in the Seventh House makes marriage and other forms of intense
one-to-one relating central to your life. Either with or through such a
relationship, you can shine. Since it’s more self- protective to allow another
to shine for you, you at first might stay in the shadows and promote your
partner. Then, wondering why you’ve worked so hard and received no recognition,
you may decide to appear on stage alone. This, too, is dissatisfying. Instead
of alternating between performing solo and supporting your partner, you’ll be
happier if you appear on stage with your partner from the start. In this way
you have both the sharing and the recognition. You should recognize that close,
one-to-one relationships are important to you partly because they provide you
with ego gratification.
Your Mercury is in the Seventh.
With Mercury in the Seventh House, communication is a prime requirement for you
in any partnership . This does not necessarily mean deep-probing or philosophical
communications, but rather social conversation. If you’re involved in a
satisfactory relationship and are describing your partner, you’ll probably find
yourself mentioning how well your partner communicates. On the other hand, if
you’re having difficulty talking to each other, you could feel that this
indicates serious problems between you. The best way to deal with this is to
reopen the lines of communications. You don’t have to start with deep analysis
or a grim facing of the situation. You can simply start talking about a neutral
subject that interests you both. Just chatting can alleviate suspicions and
anxiety and can open the door so that you can have more serious conversations.
Your Mars is in the Seventh
You want a partner who is active and can take the initiative. You don’t,
however, want someone who will take charge full-time and boss you around. If
this happens, you might become angry and have heated words. You can probably
avoid much of this if you decide early on who’s going to be in charge of what,
and make each of you the director of something. But you may prefer to fight
some things out, because if the relationship is too calm, you’d probably be
bored. You might enjoy walking while you have discussions, so that the anger
doesn’t get too intense. In fact, doing physical activities jointly could be a
wonderful way to expend the high level of energy that you have together.
Your Uranus is in the Seventh.
Wherever Uranus is in your chart is where you tend to break with tradition.
Uranus in your Seventh House could mean that you’re attracted to unusual
partners—those who are free spirits, free thinkers or eccentric. Or, if you
came from a Bohemian-style background, you could be the unusual one, while you
select a partner who is normal by societal standards. Alternatively, you may
want to incorporate some originality, excitement and a degree of freedom into
your partnership, so that you share exciting adventures and support each
other’s unusual ideas. It is important for each of you to allow the other a bit
of space and time alone. If you don’t have some freedom within your
relationship, one of you might have the urge to free yourself from it.
Entwining Your Souls
Ideally, in the Fifth House you gained a sense of who you are and who you want,
and in the Seventh you learned how to enter into a partnership without
sacrificing your individuality. In the Eighth House you’re called upon to
surrender that self so as to merge with your partner fully.
This surrender commonly
takes the form of sex, but it can be other forms of deep involvement as well.
On a material level, it can mean pooling your possessions and finances.
Essentially, this house is where you loosen your grasp on what you once thought
necessary, and in doing so, merge into a deeper and larger self that goes
beyond your own individuality.
The Seventh House allowed
you to work out power struggles through open communication and adherence to the
rules of fairness. Eighth-House power struggles are sneakier because they arise
from unconscious depths. They often result in an attempt to force surrender
rather than allow the other person to render it up freely. To resolve these
struggles, you need to open yourself to your own deepest emotions and those of
your partner. When emotion is respected and given its due in a non-violent way,
Eighth-House struggles can eventually lead to relationships of enormous
tenderness and depth.
Regarding sex, most people
have more than one sign influencing their Eighth House, and many also have one
or more planets in the Eighth. This multiplies possible avenues for sexual
expression. Finding ways to combine all these energies can lead to the kid of
sex that most satisfies you personally.
Taurus is on your Eighth-House cusp.
Sensual enjoyments are very important to you, and you’re likely to savor every
moment of such experiences. Moreover, you’re loyal to your partner and expect
loyalty in return. Since you tend to be habit-oriented in this area of your
life, if there is a change in the routine, you could begin to question your
partner’s trustworthiness. Then jealousy and possessiveness could enter the
picture and disrupt your sex life.
If this happens, together
you should reestablish your routine. It also will help if your partner shows
that he or she cares. Practical evidence of devotion may be preferable to
physical or emotional demonstrativeness. Showering you with gifts could produce
the desired results more quickly than a hug or a kiss.
Gemini is within the Eighth House.
Though you may start by being routine-oriented, at some point you’ll probably
want some variety in your sex life. You might find this with a versatile sex
partner, or by having more than one. If you’re bored with a partner who always
performs in the same manner, you might look elsewhere for new and interesting
sexual experiences. That search could bring unnecessary complications into your
life. An alternative to wandering would be to talk to your partner about your
feelings. This might either bring about change in your physical sexual
activities or suggest other new and interesting channels for pleasure.
Venus, the ruler of your Eighth House, is in the Sixth
The placement of your Eighth-House ruler in your house of work and daily
routines suggests that you might have a work relationship along with a sexual
relationship, or that you might meet your sex partner on the job. It could also
mean that you look upon sex as your duty, or as something that requires
industry and effort. True, working hard on anything can improve it, at least up
to a point. But too much work can kill the pleasure. To avoid placing this
burden on your sex life, you might try forming working relationship with your
sexual partner. You may be surprised to find that sharing a project together
arouses you.
Having planets in the Eighth House contributes yet other themes to your
lovemaking needs and style.
Your Moon is in the Eighth.
Sex is more closely intertwined than usual with your basic emotional nature. To
enjoy sex, you absolutely must be emotionally aroused. Also, the feelings you
express tend to be a barometer of your sex life. If all is going well, you can
be openly tender and loving. If you’re having problems, you can have emotional
outbursts. There may be fluctuation in this area of your life, so that when it
comes to sex you may feel as if you’re on an emotional roller-coaster. If you
become upset, your partner can calm you with a bit of nurturing. Not only will
you feel better, you’ll also probably nurture your partner in return. Then your
sex life will feel more even and emotionally gratifying.
How Each of You Sees Your Partner
To see how you experience your partner, what your partner means to you
personally, and the biases you may have when dealing with this important person
in your life, we’re now going to look at the way your partner’s planets fit
into the houses of your birth chart.
You could think of your
partner’s planets as “lighting up” your houses, bringing more energy to the
areas of life that those houses deal with. Your partner’s planets can activate
underactive areas of your life, making you feel more complete. Or they may
increase the activity in areas that that are already emphasized in your own
chart. They may repeat problematic themes in your own horoscope so that you’re
finally forced to deal with them, or give you the added push to make the most
of assets that you already have. All this influences the way you feel about
your partner, and suggests the functions that your partner will take on in your
life.
If the two of you are
reasonably close in age, it’s inevitable that you’ll both have the
slower-moving planets (like Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto) in the same or
an adjacent sign, which means that they’ll also be in the same or an adjacent
house. This isn’t very significant personally, because all it’s really showing
is how you’d relate to anyone in your age group. However, if both you and your
partner have the same faster-moving body (like the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or
Mars) in one of your houses, it does have personal importance. This will
reinforce that planet’s effect on a given area of your life. The aspects that
are made to that planet in your partner’s chart, however, may add some new
themes that you may not have by yourself.
Although the following
sections are addressed to each of you individually, your partner will obviously
gain some useful insights from reading your section, too.
Jill’s Overall View of Robert
To get an overall impression of how you would view Robert, we’re going to take
a look at the general way in which your partner’s planets are placed around
your horoscope wheel. We’ll see whether they’re scattered quite evenly, or
whether they emphasize some particular sector of your chart.
Many of Robert’s planets fall below your horizon.
With more of Robert’s planets falling into the bottom half of your chart, you
tend to see her as introverted. You view her as keeping a great deal inside,
and not sharing it with you or anyone else. You may also see Robert as
non-conforming, living by an inner standard and not particularly interested in
what society thinks. If most of her planets fall in the lower half of her own
chart, she may in fact be introverted. If this is true, trying to influence her
by pointing to what others think is right or wrong may not work. Whether or not
she’s really as introverted as you think, appealing to Robert’s integrity will
probably be more effective.
More of Robert’s planets are in your chart’s western half.
The fact that more of Robert’s planets fall into the right-hand half of your
chart suggests that you tend to view her primarily as a responder. You may not
expect her to take the initiative, and you could see her as slow or indecisive
when initiative and decisiveness are necessary. You might think that if you
left taking action to her, you’d never do anything as a couple. You might
therefore do things like accept invitations or set your social calendar without
consulting with this partner.
If neither of you minds
this, fine. But, if your partner resents not having a say in what’s happening,
chances are that her own chart indicates that she’s basically an initiator. You
don’t have to give up the reins entirely, but you might discuss the matter and
together determine areas where your partner can be in charge. You might even
enjoy not having to make all the decisions.
Seeing Robert through the Lens of Your Houses
For more particular information about the way Robert affects you, let’s now
look at where each of her planets fits into the framework of your houses. The
houses that will probably be most important in forming your view of Robert are
the houses that contain her Sun and Moon.
Robert’s Sun is in your Fourth House.
If you and Robert don’t share a home, you may still feel that she lights up
your life or helps to make your home warm. If you live together, you may
believe that your shared home reflects her more than you, and perhaps it does.
In fact, you may even contribute to creating such a home. If you rearrange
furniture or make any purchases for the house, you could find yourself
considering her wishes before you do anything. Another possibility is that you
may believe that the entire household revolves around her . You could
contribute to this as well by consulting her before you make plans or take action
in the home. If you’re annoyed at yourself or Robert because you don’t act
independently, think of yourself as being considerate rather than wishy-washy.
This may help you to better adjust to the situation.
Robert’s Moon is in your Ninth House.
You might feel that Robert’s strong opinions on religion and/or politics are
based on intuition or emotions rather than logic. If your views are similar,
there should be no problem in your discussing such matters. However, if you
disagree, your partner could be prone to emotional outbursts or trigger such
behavior in you. Once emotions are aroused, it’s hard to change anyone’s mind,
so chances are that both of you will only get more upset. If this kind of
behavior occurs, you might want to avoid these controversial subjects.
Alternatively, you might want to substitute long-distance travel for arguments
about religion and politics. Whether or not this works, you’ll at least visit
interesting places.
Robert’s Mercury is in your Third House.
Small talk should not be a problem for you and Robert. It may be particularly
easy for the two of you to discuss the weather, the neighbors, and what kind of
day you each had. You may also feel that she is adept at chatting not only with
you, but in social situations as well.
If at times you crave more
intellectual depth, you may have to rely on other connections between your
charts. If these are lacking, remember how important it is to communicate in
the everyday world. You and Robert need a form of daily exchange first of all.
You can always go elsewhere to discuss philosophical matters.
Robert’s Venus is in your Fourth House.
Robert could be pleasant to have around the house, either bringing peace and
harmony to your surroundings or helping to make your home more attractive. Or
there’s the possibility that, although your household is peaceful, your partner
doesn’t actively participate in running your home. Your partner’s view could be
that menial tasks are for peasants, while you might think that your partner is
just plain lazy. If you feel that you’re doing all the work and your partner is
having all the pleasure, there are at least two ways you can enlist some help
around the house. One is to appeal to Robert’s sense of artistry, and maybe she
will then do a little interior decorating. The other is to make a game of the
tasks that must be done. If you do that, you may find that your partner not
only assists you, but may even begin to volunteer to help.
Robert’s Mars is in your Fourth House.
Robert may be particularly energetic at home, or you could see her as the one
who directs activities in that area. As long as the two of you are working
together, you probably won’t resent being directed, but if your partner bosses
you around and/or does’t help with the chores that you’re being ordered to do,
you could view her as a dictator and become angry. You might thrive on such
arguments, but if you don’t, the key to righting the situation hinges on both
of you keeping busy at home. There will be less inclination to fight, and your
house will be in better condition because of the work you’ve each done.
Robert’s Jupiter is in your Eighth House.
Robert may bring new ideas and/or more pleasure to your sex life, or may simply
seem to have an insatiable sexual appetite. If you’re enjoying yourself, fine.
If you’re overwhelmed, you can try channeling these energies into other
appropriate directions. You could have philosophical conversations about sex or
other Eighth-House matters such as transformation, joint resources, or other
people’s resources. Who knows? Such discussions might improve your sex life,
transform either or both of you, give you ideas as to how you can expand your
shared resources, or lead you to pick a winning lottery number.
Robert’s Saturn is in your Third House.
Communicating with Robert may be a serious issue in your relationship. You
could feel that she’s hard to reach, or that you’re limited in what you can say
to her, because she doesn’t listen to you or doesn’t seem to understand what
you’re talking about. Or perhaps you feel intimidated, because you believe that
she speaks as an authority and is always trying to tell you how and what to
think. You may end up finding it easier just to keep quiet. It may help to put
your thoughts into writing. Try to be clear, concise and honest in what you
write, and this will clarify your thoughts. You will then be able to speak with
your partner in a style that she can understand. She may not only start to
listen to you, but may be more understanding as well.
Robert’s Uranus is in your Sixth House.
In your life together, Robert is unlikely to want to be tied down to a daily
routine. Moreover, it is highly likely that the more you try to press for
scheduling, the less dependable she will become. It’s fine for you to make out a
schedule as long as you don’t try to force it upon her. The more you push, the
more resistance you’ll get. Making your partner feel guilty also won’t work.
Instead of trying to make your partner conform, you’re more likely to get
cooperation and accomplish your goals if you convince her that any task is an
intellectual challenge, a creative venture, or a step forward for humanity.
Then she will be likely to join right in, and together you can get the job done
quickly.
Robert’s Neptune is in your Eleventh House.
If Robert is involved in humanitarian causes, you could see her as a savior in
the group, one who takes the side of the underdog or victim. In such a case,
you could put her on a pedestal and view her as a hero. At social gatherings,
you might feel either that she has a certain glamor and charisma, or that she
fades into the background and isn’t noticed at all. She may be sometimes one
way, and sometimes the other, so that you’re never sure which side will emerge
in a given group.
Robert’s Pluto is in your Ninth House.
Merely because she’s active in one of these areas, you may see Robert as
influential in the area of religion, politics or higher education. You may even
see her as an authority on any or all of these subjects without any active
involvement on her part. And if you both belong to something like a church or a
political party, you may feel that she is a leader in this area whether or not
you agree with her ideas. If your views are different, you might consider
yourself the expert and feel that she is trying to cram invalid ideas down your
throat in a loud and pushy way. If your discussions get too unpleasant, you
could simply avoid these subjects, or take a long trip together. If you go to
faraway places, she might still tend to take charge, but at least you’ll get to
see new scenery.
Robert’s North Node is in your Seventh House.
Robert
Wagner
Robert
Wagner's Chart Positions
Planet Sign Longitude Declination
q Sun is in b Aquarius 20` 49' 08" -14` 34' 00"
w Moon is in f Cancer 7` 15' 42" +27` 39' 00"
e Mercury is in v Capricorn 25` 17' 05" -19` 51' 00"
r Venus is in b Aquarius 21` 40' 34" -15` 32' 00"
t Mars is in b Aquarius 2` 43' 26" -20` 31' 00"
y Jupiter is in d Gemini 6` 31' 02" +20` 53' 00"
u Saturn is in v Capricorn 8` 08' 42" -22` 27' 00"
i Uranus is in a Aries 8` 41' 46" + 2` 50' 00"
o Neptune is in h Virgo 2` 31' 24" +11` 12' 00"
p Pluto is in f Cancer 17` 54' 24" +22` 02' 00"
l N. Node is in s Taurus 6` 48' 28" +13` 48' 00"
j Ascendant is in x Scorpio 22` 34' 28" -18` 25' 00"
k Midheaven is in h Virgo 6` 03' 01" + 9` 18' 00"
$ Chiron is in s Taurus 9` 50' 53" +13` 08' 00"
Robert’s Way of Relating
Your Basic Personality Type
For clues about your overall orientation to life, we’ll look first at the major
features of your birth chart. We’ll first see what kinds of houses and zodiac
signs are either emphasized or lacking. Then we’ll take a closer look at the
three most important points in your horoscope--the Sun, Moon, and Ascendant or
rising sign.
You have few or no planets in Fire signs or houses.
It may not be easy for you to take the initiative, or to show your enthusiasm
and excitement. Therefore, you might need a fire lit under you to awaken your
zest for life and get you started. People who are too energetic or assertive
may make you feel uncomfortable. Those who are too passive may not help you to
improve your state of mind and accomplish your goals. Instead, you need someone
who can give you a gentle nudge without being overly aggressive.
You have many planets in Air signs or houses.
Air people are the thinkers and planners of the zodiac, but not usually the
movers. (Even Geminis, who tend to be physically active, may not be able to
move forward without a master plan.) Therefore, you may spend a great deal of
time in your head rather than making an impression on the world.
Sometimes, though, talking
about possibilities can help to get you started. Verbalizing ideas can make
them take on more definite form so that it becomes easier to take the
initiative. You can either talk to yourself aloud or find someone else who will
listen to you and possibly motivate you to act.
A positive quality of air-sign
people is that they are objective and can understand many points of view. The
downside of this is that you may find it hard to make up your mind. If there
are too many alternatives, you may procrastinate. Try to examine only two
possibilities at a time, and ask others for their opinion. You do want to make
up your own mind, but it may help to weigh the ideas of others with your own.
You have many planets in Water signs or houses.
This means that you tend to operate by intuition and instinct. What’s important
to you is how you feel about things, and so when making decisions you may not
consider the “facts.” Your intuition may be good, but if you allow your
emotions to run your life totally, you may sometimes find yourself in difficult
circumstances. Try not to jump to conclusions. Instead, meditate on your
situation and allow your feelings to search the recesses of your mind. (Or at
least count to ten before you respond!)
Compassion is a quality you
not only possess, but one that motivates you to act. It is also a
characteristic by which you tend to judge others. You are attracted to those
who stir your feelings and with whom you can sympathize. Once you begin to
identify with these people, however, you lose your objectivity, and you can
become so fiercely loyal that you refuse to listen to anything negative about
them. Your loyalty might be misguided. Take off the blinders and periodically
analyze your relationships. You use your intuition to enter relationships, so
also trust your instincts as you continue to evaluate them. But do also try to
be a bit objective.
You have many planets in Fixed signs or houses.
Your chart’s strength in Fixed signs and/or houses enables you to be more
tenacious and persistent than the average person. Once you make a commitment,
you tend to follow through. You may be a bit stubborn, but you get the job
done. If you have a partner who’s also strongly Fixed, your tenacity could make
you an unbeatable pair. Should you disagree, however, be prepared for a lengthy
battle.
You’re usually motivated by
goals. If Taurus or the Second House is particularly full of planets, your goal
may be to acquire possessions or attain sensual pleasure. With Leo or the Fifth
House emphasized, you’ll want to be creative and receive recognition. With
Scorpio or the Eighth House stressed, your end may be emotional gratification,
or you may be driven by a need to probe deeply and analyze what you find. With
Aquarius or the Eleventh House strong, you’re motivated by issues of freedom or
individuality, which may be either personal or humanitarian.
Aquarius and/or Eleventh-House symbolism is especially strong.
Freedom, independence and individuality are qualities that you appreciate and
with which you can identify, and you also respect other people’s right to
express their individuality. You have a laissez-faire attitude, and tend to be
accepting rather than judgmental. With your detachment and objectivity, you
make a good moderator, but you may find forming personal bonds with others a
bit difficult. Your best bet for making personal connections would be to join a
team effort or get involved with others in a common cause, particularly one
that serves humanity. Not only can such group activities help to make the world
a better place, they can also help you form close ties with others who share
your values.
Your Sun is in Aquarius.
You may pride yourself on being an individualist, and you probably prefer
forging your own path to following the lead of others. Yet you yourself don’t
particularly want to be the leader of the pack. You don’t mind standing alone,
and if you’re involved with groups at all, it’s usually for a specific purpose
or to further a particular cause. You’ll probably see your involvement as a
team effort, and will avoid groups with a clearly defined hierarchy.
Just as you may not always
be a joiner of groups, you might even avoid large parties where commitment is
involved. Yet you can socialize and do it well. You move without effort from
one person or group to another, and like to share in stimulating conversation.
In fact, you may instill life into discussions by playing the devil’s advocate.
No matter what you really believe, you can take the opposite viewpoint and do
it well. This should appeal to you, because you have intellectual curiosity,
and being the opponent on any issue is one way to gather information. Besides,
as already stated, you enjoy being different and even a bit contrary, and this
is one way to stand out from the crowd.
When interacting with
individuals, you think of them as equals and treat them that way. You tend to
be non-judgmental and accept people for who they are. This is true for mere
acquaintances as well as individuals with whom you’re closely aligned. If you
tend to be critical, it will come from other factors in your chart, not from
your Aquarius Sun.
You may know many people,
but you don’t need a huge number of close relationships. In fact, you’d feel
stifled if you were responsible to, or had to report to, more than a few
individuals.
Because you need some time
alone, you may periodically detach yourself from your partner. If your partner
understands this and gives you some space, this should not be a problem in your
relationship. But you have to do your share, too. Let your partner know that
you care. This may be easier to say than to show, so verbalize it. Then your
partner won’t feel threatened when you go off by yourself. You might also
explain what you’re going to do and why. Then your partner will feel more
secure, and won’t be so likely to worry about where you are.
You can cement your
relationship by becoming involved in a cause together, one in which you each
believe. Even an involvement that seems only intellectual can be a way to share
a passion and deepen the bond between you.
Finally, if problems do
arise between the two of you, the best way to deal with them is to discuss them
in a non-accusatory way. Objectivity will not only make talking about them
easier, it can also lead to the best solutions.
Your Moon is in Cancer.
At the emotional level, you are essentially a compassionate person who displays
great tenderness in taking care of others. You can comfort others by listening
to them talk about their problems and somehow making them believe that their
situation isn’t hopeless. Sometimes it’s a touch or simply a kind word. You may
enjoy feeding people, and sometimes give the impression that you feel that food
can take care of all difficulties. You also have the ability to fiercely defend
those in your charge, doing battle for them if need be.
People may praise you for
being the one who holds the family together or runs the household so well. You
may seem so strong and solid and perform these tasks so ably that, no matter
what your sex, others may see you as Super-Mom. The downside of this is that
your partner and others with whom you’re intimately connected may allow, and
even expect, you to take care of all domestic and emotional problems —
not just your own, but also those you should really be handling jointly.
Feeling that you do these things best, they may give you little assistance,
causing you to assume undue burdens. Also, the Moon in Cancer gives you a
strong need to be nurtured yourself, and so it’s possible that while you busy
yourself tending to the needs of others, you may feel emotionally starved.
If tending to the needs of
your loved ones makes you feel happy and fulfilled, continue on. However, it’s
possible that your circumstances are far from perfect, and you’re not
consciously aware of your discontent. One symptom that something is wrong is if
you tend to overeat. You may often put food in your mouth without a thought. If
you stop to think about it, you may notice that you do this when you feel
unloved or have hurt feelings. If you use food to show others that you care,
you may also use it to supply love to yourself.
To deal with the Super-Mom
complex, first affirm that that it’s not your duty to nurture the entire world.
Tell this to yourself ten times a day so that it starts working on your
subconscious. Next, involve your partner in domestic issues. For example, you
could start cooking some meals together. You’ll feel more nurtured when your
partner prepares food for you, and you may eat less when you’re not tasting
everything that’s cooked. From cooking you can go on to discuss the emotional
problems of those who are near and dear to you both, problems that you’ve been
handling totally on your own. Ask your partner for opinions, and before you
know it, your partner may be sharing these concerns as well. Also, invite your
partner’s input on how to arrange and order your home. If you start doing such
things, you’ll feel less burdened and more emotionally supported, and your
partner will feel a greater sense of participation. All this can only deepen
the intimacy between you.
And now we get to your “axis of relationship,” which is formed by the Ascendant
(or rising sign) and the Descendant, which is always directly opposite it.
While the zodiacal sign that was rising when you were born describes the way
that you present yourself to others, the opposite sign signifies the sort of
partner you’ll be drawn to and who will make you feel more complete. Any
discussion of your rising sign (you) implies your setting sign (the partner who
will complement you).
The following description
assumes that you’ve given your actual time of birth quite precisely. If you
haven’t, and the degree that your chart shows on the Ascendant is near the
beginning or end of the sign (0 or 29 degrees), it’s possible that the adjacent
sign would describe you better.
You have Scorpio rising.
You are deep-feeling and passionate about whatever issues or individuals
interest you. Because of your persistence and high degree of focus, it’s
difficult to distract you or make you move in a new direction. Some may view
you as obsessive, but this is usually only when you feel that your goals are
blocked. If things are moving along the way you want them to, you’ll just
continue on your chosen path and people can count on this.
In intimate relationships
you’re steadfast, and you need a partner who’s dependable, too. When you’re
choosing a partner, trust and loyalty are at the top of your list. You could be
suspicious, but fortunately you’re likely to choose a partner who is
habit-oriented. Once you understand your partner’s behavioral pattern and see
it repeated again and again, you feel more secure. If the pattern does change
and you do become suspicious, before leaving the relationship you probably take
your time and investigate thoroughly to determine if your partner is
trustworthy. Since your partner is probably habit-oriented, however, he or she
neither takes relationships lightly nor leaves them any more quickly than you
do. Therefore, you’ll probably be together for a long time.
If you’re both creatures of
habit, you may sometimes feel as if you’re in a rut. The rut may feel secure,
but if it doesn’t otherwise gratify you, you might want a change. Making
changes may not come easily, but it could be fun. First, recognize that you’re
both looking for sensual pleasure, and this can go beyond sex. As you discuss
changes, surround yourselves with anything that smells, tastes, feels, sounds
or looks good. Also, include the pleasure principle in any decisions that you
ultimately make. Neither of you may change quickly, but you can enjoy
yourselves while you’re in the process of change.
Here are some other
suggestions about negotiating. Don’t make demands on each other. Neither of you
likes to be told what to do, and you’re both capable of doing the exact opposite
of what your partner desires. Instead of barking orders, you should each
express your views and offer alternatives that you can accept. Then talk about
the possibilities. You yourself will be bringing your intuition into the
discussion, and your partner will probably look at the alternatives from a
practical perspective. Individually, the two of you may be stubborn, so that
when you disagree it may take effort to come to an understanding. But if you
can arrive at an acceptable compromise and work together, the personal
stubbornness will become joint persistence, and you’ll be unbeatable.
Your Specific Relationship Needs
Now we get down to the particulars of what you want and need in romance,
partnership and sex. To do this, we take a close-up look at the Fifth, Seventh
and Eighth houses in your chart.
We’ll look at the zodiacal
sign at the beginning (on the cusp) of the house, and at the house position of
the planet that rules that sign. Then we’ll round out the interpretation with
any other signs and planets that are positioned within that house.
Keep in mind that these
houses describe not only what you have to give to a relationship, but also what
you need from your partner. Your relationships will work better if both of you
try to contribute the various qualities that are symbolized in these key
relationship houses.
Flirting and Courting
Associated, among other things, with risk-taking, the Fifth House is where you
take the plunge and throw yourself open to chance. Will Mr./Ms. Right cross your
path at the mixer dance or singles bar? Will you take the risk of asking
someone out on a date? Will the blind date be a delight or a disaster? This is
one of the reasons that the Fifth is the place where love relationships begin.
Once you’ve started to
date, the Fifth House’s recreational side emerges. Fifth-House activities like
dinner out, plays and movies, museums and sports provide a pleasurable
atmosphere to encourage a budding acquaintance to flower into something more.
Called the house of self-expression, the Fifth also rules self- display, as you
each put on your finest feathers to attract the other. Dating in the Fifth
leads to marriage in the Seventh House and sex in the Eighth, and then the
cycle begins again with children, which are also shown by the Fifth House and
its association with self-expression and play.
So let’s now look at your
style of courting someone, the kind of romantic relationships you like, and the
kind of person you’re most likely to enjoy dating.
Aries is on your Fifth-House cusp.
You want action in your romantic relationships, and are drawn to those who are
assertive and take the lead. However, if you’re attracted to someone, you may
not wait to be approached. At least at the outset of a courtship you enjoy
spontaneity, and tend to focus on immediate gratification rather than long-term
implications.
Mars, the ruler of your Fifth House, is in the Third
The planet that’s traditionally associated with the sign on the Fifth-House
cusp brings in additional considerations. Placed in the Third House, it means
that communication and sociability are high on the list of qualities you’re
looking for in a romantic partner. You may not frequently think about the
long-term implications of the relationship. You just want someone with whom you
can talk easily and who can adjust to different types of people. Your
conversations need not be deep and philosophical, just interesting and diverse.
You want a person with whom you can feel comfortable at a party—someone who can
carry on light conversation with others without direction or supervision from
you.
Having planets placed within your the Fifth House adds yet other requirements
for you in the area of romance.
Your Uranus is in the Fifth.
You crave excitement in romance, and may be attracted to unusual or creative
romantic partners who might also be unreliable. Alternatively, they could be
mentally stimulating or come from a different background than your own. It’s
also possible to be involved with a romantic partner who seems ordinary, but
who shares your desire for a bit of excitement and surprise during your good
times together.
Becoming Partners
Through the pleasures, risk-taking and self-expression signified by the Fifth
House, you gain a sense of your own individuality and develop a robust identity
of your own. You need this before you can have the true relationship of equals
that is the essence of the Seventh House.
Traditionally the house of
marriage, Seventh House signifies the way you make a serious commitment to
another, and the way that that commitment is recognized in the social sphere
beyond your relationship. Even when your relationship doesn’t result in
marriage, this is the house where you learn to blend your individualities
without submerging them, and, for better or for worse, to deal with the ups and
downs of life as a team. It’s also the place of head-to-head confrontations,
where you encounter both your similarities and your differences, and each
negotiate your fair share in disputes.
Taurus is on your Seventh-House cusp.
You need a partner with whom you can share sensual pleasures. Problems can
arise when one of you is being totally self-absorbed and self-indulgent without
considering the other. If you’re feeling neglected, never order your
partner to think about your needs. That would be like waving a red flag in
front of a bull, and it’ll produce the exact opposite of what you want.
Instead, suggest two or three things that you’d like to do or to see happen,
and allow your partner to choose among them. In this way, your partner will
have made the decision, and you’ll be satisfied as well. If you feel that
you’re the one who’s been taking the other for granted, and your partner seems
unhappy, plan some pleasurable activities that you can enjoy together.
Practical considerations and possessions can figure large in your life
together, and you may enjoy your joint ownership of beautiful things.
Gemini is within the Seventh House.
You also want a partner who is sociable and has a variety of interests. Because
your partner is so diversified, he or she could sometimes seem shallow and/or
scattered. But if you can flit along together happily, this might be an asset
rather than a liability, especially when the alternative to superficiality is
boredom. You may sometimes yearn for intellectual conversations, but this could
be difficult because one or both of you may have a short attention span.
However, it’s not impossible. One way to handle this problem, should it arise,
is to divide the discussion into segments, with breaks for physical exercise or
snacks, or possibly a party. The ability to fit into many different types of
groups is one of the qualities that attracted you, and watching your partner in
action may remind you of your blessings.
Venus, the ruler of your Seventh House, is in the Third
In your chart the planet that is traditionally associated with the sign on your
Seventh-House cusp is placed in the Third House. This suggests that you might
seek out a classmate or neighbor as a marriage partner. Your marriage will tend
to have a quality of friendship and easygoing social exchange, with lots of
small talk, and neighbors and siblings dropping in often. You prefer a marriage
partner with whom you can feel comfortable at a party—someone who can superficially
interact with others without direction or supervision from you. You’d also like
a person with whom you can share interests in a wide range of topics. The two
of you may find it rewarding to study things together, or to teach each other
languages or useful skills.
The fact that your Seventh House also contains one or more planets means that
you have yet other requirements in your close relationships.
Your Jupiter is in the Seventh.
This placement is sometimes said to indicate that no matter how good an
intimate relationship is, at some point it can become boring, so that the grass
may begin to look greener on the other side of the fence. If this is accurate,
you could have a series of partners, but there are other ways to play this. You
might select a partner who is intelligent and can help you to develop as an
individual, or possibly someone from a foreign country or culture who can teach
you about customs different from your own.
It’s unlikely that you’ll
ever want constant togetherness, however. You need your own personal interests.
Nevertheless, you and your partner should share at least one interest through
which you can jointly grow. Sharing everything in a relationship can become
dull, but if you share nothing, there’s no reason to be together.
Entwining Your Souls
Joined into a single entity in the Seventh House, you’re ready to transform
each other in the Eighth. This involves relaxing your grip on whatever you felt
necessary to maintain yourselves as individuals, and taking a leap of faith,
trusting that the essentially benevolent forces of life will pull you through.
If you emerge from this trial successfully, you’re transformed and renewed.
This, of course, is the
essence of sex, which is one of the areas that the Eighth House stands for. The
Eighth also depicts the other sorts of deep emotional bonds that arise in
relationships, as you shed the shells of your individuality to merge into a
larger whole. On a material level, the Eighth depicts the merging of property
and finances, where you each need to give up what is yours.
With the high emotional
intensity of the Eighth House and its lack of objectivity, power struggles are
possible. Any impulse to do harm must always be contained. The key lies in
developing compassion for your own emotional state, in letting go of tightly
held positions, and then inviting powers out of your conscious control to lead
you in the right direction.
Regarding your sexual self,
all the signs and planets influencing your Eighth House describe possible
avenues for sexual expression. Combining or alternating these themes will keep
you from falling into stale and confining routines.
Gemini is on your Eighth-House cusp.
You will probably want some variety in your sex life. You could find this with
a versatile sex partner, or by having more than one. If you get bored with a
partner who always performs in the same manner, you might look elsewhere for
new and interesting sexual experiences. That search could bring unnecessary
complications into your life. An alternative to wandering would be to talk to
your partner about your feelings. This might either bring about change in your
physical sexual activities or suggest other new and interesting channels for
pleasure.
The sign Cancer is within the Eighth House.
Though your first impulse is toward variety in sexual relations, there’s a part
of you that also craves security. You need it, and you can provide it as well.
You tend to mother your sexual partners, offering emotional security more than
material. In fact, food or making your partner feel comfortable could be an
important part of your sexual ritual. You want some of this treatment also, so
it’s best if you take turns mothering each other. If one partner does all the
nurturing and gets nothing in return, emotional outbursts could interfere with
your sex life. Making the nurturing reciprocal can result in sex that is both
tender and highly satisfying.
Mercury, the ruler of your Eighth House, is in the Third
The placement of your Eighth-House ruler in the Third House suggests that for
you sex is closely intertwined with communication. You may enjoy discussing
sex, and could even find talking about it more exciting than doing it. Or you
might get aroused by conversation before or during sex. Another possibility is
that you want your sexual partner to notice your mental agility or your
adeptness at socializing more than you want to be appreciated for your body or
your sexuality. Or you might complain if you spend more time in bed together
than socializing with others. If you have any of these problems, you’ll be more
prone than most to discuss them, and this can help you find solutions.
Having planets in the Eighth House contributes yet other themes to your
lovemaking needs and style.
Your Moon is in the Eighth.
Sex is more closely intertwined than usual with your basic emotional nature. To
enjoy sex, you absolutely must be emotionally aroused. Also, the feelings you
express tend to be a barometer of your sex life. If all is going well, you can
be openly tender and loving. If you’re having problems, you can have emotional
outbursts. There may be fluctuation in this area of your life, so that when it
comes to sex you may feel as if you’re on an emotional roller-coaster. If you
become upset, your partner can calm you with a bit of nurturing. Not only will
you feel better, you’ll also probably nurture your partner in return. Then your
sex life will feel more even and emotionally gratifying.
Your Pluto is in the Eighth.
In sex, your passions tend to run deep, and when all is going well, your
gratification can be strong. It’s possible, however, that power issues could
interfere. You want a strong partner, but if anyone is going to be in control,
you want it to be you. You might be concerned that your partner could
manipulate you in sexual matters. Or, if you’re suspicious of your partner’s
motivations, you could become so obsessed that it interferes with your sex
life. Either way, instead of stewing about it, bring the problem into the open.
Through discussion, you can release the resentment, and then return to the
deep, all-involving sex that is the gift of Pluto in the Eighth.
How Each of You Sees Your Partner
To see how you experience your partner, what your partner means to you
personally, and the biases you may have when dealing with this important person
in your life, we’re now going to look at the way your partner’s planets fit
into the houses of your birth chart.
You could think of your
partner’s planets as “lighting up” your houses, bringing more energy to the
areas of life that those houses deal with. Your partner’s planets can activate
underactive areas of your life, making you feel more complete. Or they may
increase the activity in areas that that are already emphasized in your own
chart. They may repeat problematic themes in your own horoscope so that you’re
finally forced to deal with them, or give you the added push to make the most
of assets that you already have. All this influences the way you feel about your
partner, and suggests the functions that your partner will take on in your
life.
If the two of you are
reasonably close in age, it’s inevitable that you’ll both have the
slower-moving planets (like Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto) in the same or
an adjacent sign, which means that they’ll also be in the same or an adjacent
house. This isn’t very significant personally, because all it’s really showing
is how you’d relate to anyone in your age group. However, if both you and your
partner have the same faster-moving body (like the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or
Mars) in one of your houses, it does have personal importance. This will
reinforce that planet’s effect on a given area of your life. The aspects that
are made to that planet in your partner’s chart, however, may add some new
themes that you may not have by yourself.
Although the following
sections are addressed to each of you individually, your partner will obviously
gain some useful insights from reading your section, too.
Robert’s Overall View of Jill
Before going into particular planets, Robert, we’ll look first at the general
distribution of Jill’s planets around your horoscope wheel. Are her planets
fairly evenly spaced around your chart, or are they skewed toward one side or
the other?
Many of Jill’s planets fall below your horizon.
With more of Jill’s planets falling into the bottom half of your chart, you
tend to see her as introverted. You view her as keeping a great deal inside,
and not sharing it with you or anyone else. You may also see Jill as
non-conforming, living by an inner standard and not particularly interested in
what society thinks. If most of her planets fall in the lower half of her own
chart, she may in fact be introverted. If this is true, trying to influence her
by pointing to what others think is right or wrong may not work. Whether or not
she’s really as introverted as you think, appealing to Jill’s integrity will
probably be more effective.
More of Jill’s planets are in your chart’s western half.
The fact that more of Jill’s planets fall into the right-hand half of your
chart suggests that you tend to view her primarily as a responder. You may not
expect her to take the initiative, and you could see her as slow or indecisive
when initiative and decisiveness are necessary. You might think that if you
left taking action to her, you’d never do anything as a couple. You might
therefore do things like accept invitations or set your social calendar without
consulting with this partner.
If neither of you minds
this, fine. But, if your partner resents not having a say in what’s happening,
chances are that her own chart indicates that she’s basically an initiator. You
don’t have to give up the reins entirely, but you might discuss the matter and
together determine areas where your partner can be in charge. You might even
enjoy not having to make all the decisions.
Seeing Jill through the Lens of Your Houses
And now for particular planets in particular houses. Pay special attention to
the houses that contain Jill’s Sun and Moon.
Jill’s Sun is in your Sixth House.
You could see Jill as industrious and hard-working, and this could spark you to
be the same. If this is the case, you probably have no problems, and a great
deal is achieved in terms of your daily work, either because of your partner’s
energy or your joint effort. On the other hand, you might feel that everyone
notices and appreciates what Jill does, but no one pays attention to how hard
you work. If you feel neglected because your partner gets all the attention,
you may have to occasionally remind your partner and any other unappreciative
people of the effort you’re putting forth and how much you’re accomplishing.
Or, you could allow her to do all the work, since you don’t get any credit
anyway.
Jill’s Moon is in your Seventh House.
One of the qualities you were probably attracted to in Jill was nurturing. You
may share an emotional closeness, and enjoy the tender, loving care that she is
capable of bestowing upon you. Sometimes, though, this placement gives either
emotional inconsistency or more attentiveness than you bargained for, so that
you feel smothered instead of mothered. This could happen because your partner
feels insecure. Give her more mothering, and, in return, she could become less
smothering and more emotionally stable.
Jill’s Mercury is in your Sixth House.
You and Jill may be talk a lot about how you handle your daily routine. This
could take the form of her simply being interested in what you do. Or she might
take a more active role and either tell you what you should be doing or help
you to get more organized. Although Jill might have a great deal of advice to
offer, however, there might be little practical assistance. If this happens
often and you’re tired of doing all the work, you can get her to take a more
active role. When she starts to tell you how to perform a certain task, suggest
that while you’re being taught, she also show you how to do it. Either your
daily routine will become easier, or your partner will stop giving you advice.
Either alternative could be an improvement.
Jill’s Venus is in your Fifth House.
Jill is likely to add pleasure and grace to your romantic life, and might be
the type who showers you with gifts. In her penchant for making everything
beautiful and agreeable when she’s romancing you, however, she could suppress
anything negative, so that her words of endearment may not always be totally
sincere. It’s wise to allow for this, but also wise to be grateful for your
pleasant times together, and to savor every minute of them.
Some of this fun and
relaxation that Jill brings into your life may be through social activities or
an appreciation of art. Together you may enjoy entertaining, viewing what’s
beautiful, or yourselves creating beautiful things. If you have children, Jill
will probably enjoy them, but might also overindulge them a bit.
Jill’s Mars is in your Sixth House.
When it comes to the daily routine, you could see Jill as very energetic. You
yourself may feel energized by this interaction, so that when you do chores
together, you accomplish a great deal.
On the other hand, you
might experience Jill as dictatorial, telling you what you should do without
personally participating. Then, instead of accomplishing anything, you could
just have arguments. It may help to focus on some small task that you can do
together. While you’re working, you can discuss your differences. Expending
energy as you talk can keep you from getting too angry, and you can then get
your point across better. It might also help to set a new behavioral pattern
that will help you to be more efficient in your daily routine.
Jill’s Jupiter is in your Second House.
Jill could advise you on expanding your financial horizons, but could also just
help you to spend more money. If she has some ideas as to how you can make more
money, do listen, because these ideas will most likely be interesting and
creative. If they do lack substance, however, you need not follow this advice.
If your partner has big plans as to how you should spend your money, remember
that it’s your money. You can spend it if you choose to, but ultimately the
decision should be yours. Will the expenditure be worth the pleasure or rewards
that you’ll receive?
Jill’s Saturn is in your Fourth House.
Jill may be very responsible in the home, providing security for you and
possibly taking care of the practical details of running the household. Or
instead you might find that she does nothing but get in the way while you’re
trying to organize and accomplish tasks in the house. If she impedes progress,
it’s probably because she doesn’t move very quickly, or is hesitant in
volunteering to help. Rather than suffering in silence, try asking her to do
some small chore. This may lead your partner gradually to take on more and more
responsibilities. Then you’ll look upon her more favorably, and your burden of
responsibility should lessen as well.
Jill’s Uranus is in your Sixth House.
In your life together, Jill is unlikely to want to be tied down to a daily
routine. Moreover, it is highly likely that the more you try to press for
scheduling, the less dependable she will become. It’s fine for you to make out
a schedule as long as you don’t try to force it upon her. The more you push,
the more resistance you’ll get. Making your partner feel guilty also won’t
work. Instead of trying to make your partner conform, you’re more likely to get
cooperation and accomplish your goals if you convince her that any task is an
intellectual challenge, a creative venture, or a step forward for humanity.
Then she will be likely to join right in, and together you can get the job done
quickly.
Jill’s Neptune is in your Tenth House.
If Jill advises you about your career, you may either not understand the
advice, or you may try to follow it as gospel. Sometimes her intuition is
excellent, so you probably don’t want totally to disregard what you’re being
told. Also, Jill may contribute to your idealism about your direction in life.
If, however, you think you’re getting bad advice, or you don’t understand it,
smile, thank your partner for the ideas, and follow your own lights.
Another possibility with
this placement is that you’re not clear about Jill’s role in the outer world.
Even if that is true, she probably has a degree of charisma, and as long as you
and society at large admire your partner, understanding her worldly position
may not be all that important.
Jill’s Pluto is in your Ninth House.
Merely because she’s active in one of these areas, you may see Jill as
influential in the area of religion, politics or higher education. You may even
see her as an authority on any or all of these subjects without any active
involvement on her part. And if you both belong to something like a church or a
political party, you may feel that she is a leader in this area whether or not
you agree with her ideas. If your views are different, you might consider
yourself the expert and feel that she is trying to cram invalid ideas down your
throat in a loud and pushy way. If your discussions get too unpleasant, you
could simply avoid these subjects, or take a long trip together. If you go to
faraway places, she might still tend to take charge, but at least you’ll get to
see new scenery.
Jill’s North Node is in your Second House.
The Dynamics between You
Now we’re ready to look at the interactions between the two of you, as seen
from the linkages of points in one person’s chart to points in the other’s
chart. Whenever a point in your partner’s chart is in a critical angular
relationship (approximately 0 degrees, 60 degrees, 90 degrees, etc.) to a point
in your own chart, the two points become linked by an aspect. These aspects
with your partner’s chart can reinforce, challenge or harmonize with your own
planets. They can heighten or give a new twist to dynamics already present in
your natal chart, or can create entirely new issues for you to deal with.
Below, the aspects between
your charts are arranged roughly in order of how important they’re likely to be
to you personally. Take special note whenever you see aspects involving the
same pairs of planets next to each other in the list. If you see, for example,
not only your Venus conjunct your partner’s Mars, but also your partner’s Mars
square your Venus, you can be sure that Venus-Mars themes such as sex, or some
other sort of very creative, productive activity, will be of overriding
importance in your life together.
Because we’re dealing with
double the number of planets here, the number of possible aspects is hugely increased.
We’ll therefore consider only the interaspects that are quite exact.
Jill’s Sun is sextile Robert’s Moon.
You and your partner are bent on helping each other. Each of you does this in a
manner that feels comfortable, and is likely to act without being asked. Jill
tends to stand center stage, direct, and take charge of any outside situations,
while Robert tends to be the supportive and nurturing one who works behind the
scenes. Because you play complementary roles, there’s minimal conflict. If you
have any problems, it could be because a partner prefers not to be helped, or
one partner dislikes the way the other performs the selected role. Be grateful
that you have a partner who not only wants to help you, but who also won’t vie
with you over the role you wish to play!
Jill’s Sun is square Robert’s Mars.
You and your partner probably energize each other, but this could take the form
of either action or anger. If anger comes up more often than action, it might
be because Jill thinks as pushy, and/or Robert considers Jill too
self-centered. You may have heated discussions on these subjects, with nothing
ever really resolved. There’s a more constructive way to use the energy, and
that is to share some kind of physical exercise. You might find that you can
work out problems best when you’re expending energy together. Or it may be that
strenuous exercise leaves you too tired to fight. Either way, your interaction
is likely to become less tense and more rewarding.
Jill’s Sun is trine Robert’s Saturn.
The desire for self-satisfaction and the ability to work hard to attain it are
implicit in this combination. You and your partner should be easily able to
place your life goals within a clearly defined structure and, in an orderly
manner, work toward them together. You may sometimes feel pressured by your
partner or driven to be recognized and attain rewards, but the security and
support that you provide each other will probably overcome any negativity that
occurs between you. If not, you should redefine your boundaries and continue on
your chosen path. It might take time to accomplish what you want to do, but you
have the stamina to do it together, and the rewards will be worth your effort.
Jill’s Sun is trine Robert’s Neptune.
You’re drawn to each other, but because of the nebulous quality of Neptune, you
may not understand exactly why. In the same way, the world will probably be
drawn to you as a couple. Because of your being together, there’s a magic veil
drawn over you that renders you glamorous, either physically or in a less
tangible way. Jill’s life force and direction works in such harmony with
Robert’s spiritual yearnings that together you can easily achieve goals that
combine these two themes. Because these energies flow with so little effort on
your part, you might not consciously determine your direction. If you find
yourselves going off course, veering at times too heavily toward ego and at
other times toward self-sacrifice, you can rely on your intuition (especially
Robert’s intuition) to get you back on your path.
Jill’s Sun is conjunct Robert’s North Node.
Interaction with others likely to be an important part of your relationship.
Robert will tend to be the one who brings people into the partnership, and Jill
will probably play a very visible role with them. Robert could either take
pride in the impression that her partner makes and bask in it a bit herself, or
be envious because she feels that her partner hogs the limelight. Jill could
either enjoy the recognition or feel too exposed. Remember that you’re a team,
and that you can share the spotlight. You will then most likely be a very
sought-after couple, and will have a good time socializing.
Robert’s Sun is trine Jill’s Moon.
You and your partner usually tend to each other’s needs automatically, without
forethought or conflict. Robert may assume the role of the visible partner and
shield Jill from the glare of the outer world, which Jill would probably
welcome. In turn, Jill could make Robert happy by nurturing and applauding her
efforts. Unless other placements in your charts say otherwise, there should be
no clash of egos, nor any resentment over who tends to emotional needs. If
there are any problems, they would most likely be due to taking each other for
granted. Even though you both enjoy your roles, it will alway helps to say
“thank you” to your partner every once in a while.
Robert’s Sun is square Jill’s Mercury.
When you’re communicating with each other, there’s potential for friction.
Problems may arise particularly when discussing ego needs, life direction or
social interactions. Robert might feel unappreciated by Jill. Jill could think
that Robert never listens. You might try to avoid controversial subjects, but
that probably won’t work. To minimize difficulties between you, consciously
make an effort to praise and (at least occasionally) listen to each other.
Robert’s Sun is sextile Jill’s Venus.
When it comes to getting ego gratification and experiencing pleasure, you and
your partner have a natural tendency to help each other. Robert can provide a
vehicle through which Jill can express charm and diplomacy and attain personal
pleasure. In turn, Jill could use this charm and diplomacy to make Robert look
good and achieve her goals.
Robert’s Sun is square Jill’s Mars.
You and your partner probably energize each other, but this could take the form
of either action or anger. If anger comes up more often than action, it might
be because Robert thinks as pushy, and/or Jill considers Robert too
self-centered. You may have heated discussions on these subjects, with nothing
ever really resolved. There’s a more constructive way to use the energy, and
that is to share some kind of physical exercise. You might find that you can
work out problems best when you’re expending energy together. Or it may be that
strenuous exercise leaves you too tired to fight. Either way, your interaction
is likely to become less tense and more rewarding.
Robert’s Sun is sextile Jill’s Jupiter.
You and your partner can easily help each other to broaden yourselves and
obtain self-satisfaction. You’d typically do this through travel, education
and/or spiritual development. Your interaction enables each of you to improve.
The only dangers are forgetting the goals that you were trying to achieve, or
getting so caught up in helping your partner that you don’t consider the cost
of your ventures in terms of cash and energy. If you find yourselves physically
or financially overextended, or feel that the two of you waste a lot of time or
talent, stop what you’re doing, re-focus on your original goals, and re-think
how you can help each other attain them.
Robert’s Sun is semisquare Jill’s North Node.
Areas such as getting personal gratification and interacting with others could
become mild sources of irritation in your partnership. Robert could dislike
Jill’s acquaintances, or they could complain that Robert is obnoxious or
self-centered. Unfortunately, Robert cannot hide in their presence. If you must
be with these people, there will be less friction if Jill tries whenever possible
to interact with them by herself, and Robert seeks appreciation and personal
gratification from another set of friends.
Jill’s Sun is sextile Robert’s Moon.
You and your partner are bent on helping each other. Each of you does this in a
manner that feels comfortable, and is likely to act without being asked. Jill
tends to stand center stage, direct, and take charge of any outside situations,
while Robert tends to be the supportive and nurturing one who works behind the
scenes. Because you play complementary roles, there’s minimal conflict. If you
have any problems, it could be because a partner prefers not to be helped, or
one partner dislikes the way the other performs the selected role. Be grateful
that you have a partner who not only wants to help you, but who also won’t vie
with you over the role you wish to play!
Robert’s Sun is trine Jill’s Moon.
You and your partner usually tend to each other’s needs automatically, without
forethought or conflict. Robert may assume the role of the visible partner and
shield Jill from the glare of the outer world, which Jill would probably
welcome. In turn, Jill could make Robert happy by nurturing and applauding her
efforts. Unless other placements in your charts say otherwise, there should be
no clash of egos, nor any resentment over who tends to emotional needs. If
there are any problems, they would most likely be due to taking each other for
granted. Even though you both enjoy your roles, it will alway helps to say
“thank you” to your partner every once in a while.
Jill’s Moon is trine Robert’s Venus.
Your emotions and affection flow well together. You not only have similar needs
in regard to such matters, but the way you express these qualities with each
other is also quite similar and, therefore, comfortable for you. Because you
accentuate each other’s emotions and expression of affection, you might
sometimes be viewed as too demonstrative when you’re interacting with the
outside world. But this is more other people’s problem than yours. Your
relationship is obviously doing well, and there should always be room for more
love in the world. The important thing is your attitude toward each other, for
that is part of what holds you together.
Jill’s Moon is sesquare Robert’s Mars s.
Although there’s a strong sexual attraction between you, you might find that
you’re more apt to experience friction than gratification. You could feel that
anger is a prelude to passion, but if instead it just interferes with your sex
life, try looking for new ways to show the attraction that you feel. Work on
making love not war, and the gratification that you attain will make the effort
worth while. The confrontations may not totally cease, but as you experience
the positive side of this combination they might either become more fun or
happen less often.
Jill’s Moon is semisextile Robert’s Pluto.
“Power” and “emotion” are excellent words to describe this combination. But
powerful emotions can materialize either as passion that you share or as a
weapon you that you use against each other. If you try to force your attitude
on your partner either subtly or overtly, you may evoke the weapon more often
than the passion. Instead, you should take turns allowing each other’s needs to
be in the foreground. Jill should provide emotional support for Robert’s desire
for empowerment and not attempt to manipulate her direction. And then Robert
should add impetus to her partner’s expression of feelings without interference
or attempting to control. In other words, you should each adjust periodically to
the other’s needs without thinking of your own. In that way, you’ll both
ultimately achieve what you want, you’ll feel supported by your partner, and
your passion will start to flow more freely.
Robert’s Moon is sextile Jill’s Uranus.
When emotions are involved, you and your partner naturally share an air of
electricity. No matter how long you’ve been together, there’s an easily-ignited
spark of excitement between you. Because of your interaction, there can be some
inconsistency in the way you each behave, but you know down deep that you can
count on help from your partner. Jill may use unusual means, but she can make
Robert feel comfortable to express her feelings freely. And Robert’s emotional
emotional support can help Jill to be more individual and creative. You may not
always know what to expect next from each other, but you know that you’ll get
help when you need it, and you’ll probably never be bored.
Robert’s Moon is conjunct Jill’s South Node.
Emotions and an urge to nurture may play a prominent part in the relationships
that you as a couple have with others. You may judge these people not by logic,
but by feelings and intuition, and may be easily upset by what they say or do.
It’s also possible that your interactions with these people may have an emotional
impact on your feelings for each other. You might see your partner through the
eyes of these people, and if the impression is unfavorable, it could create a
rift between you.
You probably spend more
time with your partner than with these other individuals, so before you try to
make drastic changes in your partnership, try to cultivate people who think
that both you and your partner are great human beings. You might then discover
that you have no problem at all.
Robert’s Sun is square Jill’s Mercury.
When you’re communicating with each other, there’s potential for friction.
Problems may arise particularly when discussing ego needs, life direction or
social interactions. Robert might feel unappreciated by Jill. Jill could think
that Robert never listens. You might try to avoid controversial subjects, but
that probably won’t work. To minimize difficulties between you, consciously
make an effort to praise and (at least occasionally) listen to each other.
Jill’s Mercury and Robert’s Mercury are in trine.
You and your partner communicate easily. You may share many of the same views,
and so you most likely enjoy conversing with each other. You probably won’t
discuss deep, intellectual matters, but you can talk without effort about
issues that are important in your daily life. The worst possibility with this
combination is that you talk to each other too much (if there’s such a thing as
talking too much to your partner!). Having such excellent rapport will
strengthen your relationship and should far outweigh any complaints you could
have about each other’s loquacity.
Jill’s Mercury is square Robert’s Venus.
With this combination you and your partner should have no difficulty
communicating. However, with this particular aspect, Robert could find Jill too
talkative, and Jill could feel that Robert is self- centered and only wishes to
discuss herself. So instead of just enjoying the pleasure of talking together,
you may frequently grate on each other. You may find your conversations more
enjoyable if Robert uses her charm to enhance Jill’s discussions, and Jill adds
interesting sidelights to Robert’s focus on self. If you complement each other
in this way, you’ll have a happier time together, and the outer world will
probably see you as a very charming and sociable couple.
Jill’s Mercury is sextile Robert’s Pluto.
Jill wants to help Robert express personal power more effectively, and Robert
is bent on assisting Jill to communicate better. As a couple, you can therefore
have a powerful impact on both each other and the world. Whether or not it’s
your goal, you’ll surely be heard. The only danger is that you might sometimes
come across too strongly or get carried away with your power. However, this
combination also gives the ability to analyze, get to the bottom of issues, and
determine the best course of action. These skills, plus your urge to help each
other, are great assets in your relationship, because whatever difficulties may
arise, you have a talent for together getting to the root of the matter and transforming
your circumstances.
Robert’s Mercury is semisextile Jill’s Jupiter.
You and your partner have the ability to broaden each other intellectually.
Neither of you, however, should try to force your viewpoint onto your partner
because this could lead to exaggeration or fuzzy thinking. Instead, you should
each take turns throwing your total support behind your partner and allowing
the other to express ideas without interference. Robert should sometimes be
permitted to communicate on a social level, with Jill only adding philosophical
remarks to enhance the quality of the conversation. And Jill should have time
in the spotlight to wax eloquent, with Robert only translating things into
simpler terms when it’s necessary for understanding. By taking turns adjusting
to each other in this way, both of you will improve your communications skills.
Robert’s Mercury is opposite Jill’s Pluto.
Robert’s communication skills are connected with Jill’s need for power and her
ability to analyze deeply. If you try to blend these qualities too closely,
however, power problems could erupt. For example, you might disagree as to who
should be the spokesperson or who should be in charge of content. It’s better
if you use these energies to bolster each other. Robert should speak her mind,
with Jill adding power to the words when necessary. And Jill should assert
power, which Robert may verbalize when appropriate. If you take this approach,
you’ll probably find that you’ll battle each other less, and as a couple, you
can have a powerful voice in the world.
Jill’s Moon is trine Robert’s Venus.
Your emotions and affection flow well together. You not only have similar needs
in regard to such matters, but the way you express these qualities with each
other is also quite similar and, therefore, comfortable for you. Because you
accentuate each other’s emotions and expression of affection, you might
sometimes be viewed as too demonstrative when you’re interacting with the
outside world. But this is more other people’s problem than yours. Your
relationship is obviously doing well, and there should always be room for more
love in the world. The important thing is your attitude toward each other, for
that is part of what holds you together.
Jill’s Mercury is square Robert’s Venus.
With this combination you and your partner should have no difficulty
communicating. However, with this particular aspect, Robert could find Jill too
talkative, and Jill could feel that Robert is self- centered and only wishes to
discuss herself. So instead of just enjoying the pleasure of talking together,
you may frequently grate on each other. You may find your conversations more
enjoyable if Robert uses her charm to enhance Jill’s discussions, and Jill adds
interesting sidelights to Robert’s focus on self. If you complement each other
in this way, you’ll have a happier time together, and the outer world will
probably see you as a very charming and sociable couple.
Robert’s Sun is sextile Jill’s Venus.
When it comes to getting ego gratification and experiencing pleasure, you and
your partner have a natural tendency to help each other. Robert can provide a
vehicle through which Jill can express charm and diplomacy and attain personal
pleasure. In turn, Jill could use this charm and diplomacy to make Robert look
good and achieve her goals.
Jill’s Venus and Robert’s Venus are in sextile.
Expressing affection is important in your relationship. Although the way you
and your partner show your love may not be exactly the same, there’s a basic
understanding, acceptance and gratification that you share in this area. In
addition, you want to help your partner express feelings, and you’ll probably
enjoy doting on each other. Therefore, affection should flow quite easily
between you. Because of your desire to help each other, you might sometimes
tend to overindulge your partner. If you find that you eat or drink too much,
or spend too much money when you’re together, you could look for other ways of
showing your affection. But the most important thing is that you care about each
other and can show your partner how you feel.
Jill’s Venus is sesquare Robert’s Neptune.
There’s a strong, hard-to-describe love connection between you and your
partner, and at times you may believe that you have a perfect relationship. But
human beings are far from perfect, and you have to live in the real world.
Periodically, the lovely illusion may dissolve, leaving you noticing the faults
more often than the good points of your partner. If you do more criticizing
than appreciating, remember the feeling of love that you can experience
together. Then, every time you start to criticize, remind yourself of one of
your partner’s strengths. As you focus on your partner’s endearing qualities,
the favorable thoughts will begin to outnumber the critical ones, and you’ll
come closer to the perfect union that you dream of.
Jill’s Venus is square Robert’s Pluto.
While this aspect indicates that you and your partner could share a deep and
unbounded love, you may first need to overcome some obstacles. One issue that
could arise between you is power. Either of you could become concerned about
your partner trying to control you, and this could interfere with your desire
to show affection. If you more often vie for position than make love, you may
want to try and change your approach. Implicit in this combination is the
possibility of transformation. So, if you and your partner analyze the
situation together, you could find ways to change your relationship. And, when
you’re expressing love and not waging war, you’ll know that it has been worth
the effort.
Robert’s Venus is square Jill’s Mars.
You and your partner find each other attractive and sexually appealing, but,
instead of always enjoying these qualities in each other, you may sometimes
bring out the less desirable traits of these planets. For example, Robert could
seem self-centered and Jill could seem too aggressive. Then Robert might look
elsewhere for gentler treatment, and Jill could seek someone more responsive.
You already have a dynamic and potentially exciting attachment. Before you look
elsewhere, try showing each other a bit more consideration. It may take effort,
but by working a little on your relationship, you could prove to yourself that
you have a partner who can bring you a great deal of pleasure.
Robert’s Venus is sextile Jill’s Jupiter.
You and your partner enjoy being together, and through your interaction you can
easily grow and develop, both individually and as a couple. This is because
Robert likes to bring pleasure to Jill’s life, and Jill wants to aid in
Robert’s development. Because you concentrate on helping each other to expand
horizons and enjoy life, you might not think about how much you’re eating or
drinking or how much money you’re spending. If excesses seem to dominate your
relationship, look for activities that are inexpensive or free, and places
where neither food nor drink is served. You’ll then see that it’s your
interaction that contributes to your development and enjoyment, not the cost of
the activities.
Robert’s Venus is semisquare Jill’s North Node.
When you’re out socializing together, irritations may arise. Robert might not
feel appreciated by the people Jill brings to the relationship, or they might
see her as too flirtatious, shallow or self-centered. This could cause Jill to
feel torn between her partner and her friends. To ease the situation, you might
want to seek out other people with whom you can interact as a couple, and you
might want to let Robert do most of the choosing. The same type of situation
might repeat itself, but if it does, you can just keep moving from group to
group. If you don’t spend a lot of time with any one set of acquaintances,
there may be enough contact to have a good time but not enough time to form
complaints.
Jill’s Sun is square Robert’s Mars.
You and your partner probably energize each other, but this could take the form
of either action or anger. If anger comes up more often than action, it might
be because Jill thinks as pushy, and/or Robert considers Jill too
self-centered. You may have heated discussions on these subjects, with nothing
ever really resolved. There’s a more constructive way to use the energy, and
that is to share some kind of physical exercise. You might find that you can
work out problems best when you’re expending energy together. Or it may be that
strenuous exercise leaves you too tired to fight. Either way, your interaction
is likely to become less tense and more rewarding.
Jill’s Moon is sesquare Robert’s Mars s.
Although there’s a strong sexual attraction between you, you might find that
you’re more apt to experience friction than gratification. You could feel that
anger is a prelude to passion, but if instead it just interferes with your sex
life, try looking for new ways to show the attraction that you feel. Work on
making love not war, and the gratification that you attain will make the effort
worth while. The confrontations may not totally cease, but as you experience
the positive side of this combination they might either become more fun or
happen less often.
Robert’s Sun is square Jill’s Mars.
You and your partner probably energize each other, but this could take the form
of either action or anger. If anger comes up more often than action, it might
be because Robert thinks as pushy, and/or Jill considers Robert too
self-centered. You may have heated discussions on these subjects, with nothing
ever really resolved. There’s a more constructive way to use the energy, and
that is to share some kind of physical exercise. You might find that you can
work out problems best when you’re expending energy together. Or it may be that
strenuous exercise leaves you too tired to fight. Either way, your interaction
is likely to become less tense and more rewarding.
Robert’s Venus is square Jill’s Mars.
You and your partner find each other attractive and sexually appealing, but,
instead of always enjoying these qualities in each other, you may sometimes
bring out the less desirable traits of these planets. For example, Robert could
seem self-centered and Jill could seem too aggressive. Then Robert might look
elsewhere for gentler treatment, and Jill could seek someone more responsive.
You already have a dynamic and potentially exciting attachment. Before you look
elsewhere, try showing each other a bit more consideration. It may take effort,
but by working a little on your relationship, you could prove to yourself that
you have a partner who can bring you a great deal of pleasure.
Jill’s Mars is sextile Robert’s Pluto.
You and your partner are likely to be more powerful when you’re together than
either of you is individually. Jill may prod Robert to assume more power, and
Robert can use this power to make her more effective in taking the initiative.
When you’re together, the two of you are therefore more likely to be leaders
than followers. Through your relationship, both of you have energy, the
potential to lead, and a desire to help your partner to attain greater and
greater heights. The worst problem that could arise is that you would be so
intent on helping each other that you forget to consider the thoughts or wishes
of others. If people complain or refuse to cooperate, you could flex your
muscles to make them conform, but you might produce better results and get more
cooperation if you play the benevolent dictators and help others as much as you
help each other.
Robert’s Mars is semisquare Jill’s Saturn.
You could feel limited by each other because when Robert wants to keep moving,
she may feel that Jill slows her down. This may be because Jill wants to
understand and organize her partner’s activity. And Jill could be uncomfortable
when Robert tries to press her into action. The result could be a stalemate,
with neither of you able to move forward, and both of you feeling frustrated.
It may help to try working separately first, and then combine your efforts. It
would be natural for Robert to initiate the plan, and Jill to work out the
details of what to do. Once the initial plan is in place and Robert can just
act without thinking, the two of you can gain momentum together. Then there
will be fewer disagreements and more accomplishments.
Robert’s Mars is square Jill’s Uranus.
You have the ability to make each other more spontaneous, and you may find that
you get things done more quickly together that you can by yourselves. However,
when you’re working together you may also be less patient. Sometimes you may
move so quickly that you get careless and don’t take time to think things
through. Not paying attention to important details can mean that the result of
your work falls short of expectations. You can avoid shoddiness by making the
actions you take together short-term. Divide a job into short segments. You can
still move at a good pace, but, because you can check the results at each
stage, you’ll catch any mistakes quickly. Then the end-results will be much
more satisfactory.
Robert’s Sun is sextile Jill’s Jupiter.
You and your partner can easily help each other to broaden yourselves and
obtain self-satisfaction. You’d typically do this through travel, education
and/or spiritual development. Your interaction enables each of you to improve.
The only dangers are forgetting the goals that you were trying to achieve, or
getting so caught up in helping your partner that you don’t consider the cost
of your ventures in terms of cash and energy. If you find yourselves physically
or financially overextended, or feel that the two of you waste a lot of time or
talent, stop what you’re doing, re-focus on your original goals, and re-think
how you can help each other attain them.
Robert’s Mercury is semisextile Jill’s Jupiter.
You and your partner have the ability to broaden each other intellectually.
Neither of you, however, should try to force your viewpoint onto your partner
because this could lead to exaggeration or fuzzy thinking. Instead, you should
each take turns throwing your total support behind your partner and allowing
the other to express ideas without interference. Robert should sometimes be
permitted to communicate on a social level, with Jill only adding philosophical
remarks to enhance the quality of the conversation. And Jill should have time
in the spotlight to wax eloquent, with Robert only translating things into
simpler terms when it’s necessary for understanding. By taking turns adjusting
to each other in this way, both of you will improve your communications skills.
Robert’s Venus is sextile Jill’s Jupiter.
You and your partner enjoy being together, and through your interaction you can
easily grow and develop, both individually and as a couple. This is because
Robert likes to bring pleasure to Jill’s life, and Jill wants to aid in
Robert’s development. Because you concentrate on helping each other to expand
horizons and enjoy life, you might not think about how much you’re eating or
drinking or how much money you’re spending. If excesses seem to dominate your
relationship, look for activities that are inexpensive or free, and places
where neither food nor drink is served. You’ll then see that it’s your
interaction that contributes to your development and enjoyment, not the cost of
the activities.
Robert’s Jupiter is semisextile Jill’s Uranus.
With this combination you’re connecting the principles of development and
growth (Jupiter) with the ideas of individuality and creativity (Uranus). But
you may have very different viewpoints on these subjects, and if either of you
tries too hard to push your ideas on your partner, it could create a problem
between you. If Robert is pressured, she could expand her horizons without
considering her partner. And if Jill is prodded, she could express her
individuality without a thought about Robert. Instead, you should take turns
leading the way while the other adjusts to your direction. Robert could pursue
developmental goals while Jill adds creative ideas, and then Jill could be
permitted to be creative while Robert expands the viewpoint without interfering
with the creative spark. In this way, you’ll each be growing individually, and
as a couple you’ll become increasingly creative.
Robert’s Jupiter is quincunx Jill’s North Node.
As a couple, you and your partner want to interact with individuals or groups
who will help you to grow and develop. But you may find that you tend to adjust
to their needs much more often than they adjust to yours. For example, you
might see that you’re always involved in activities that they choose, or
that you end up treating them and they rarely, if ever, treat you. If you often
feel taken advantage of, next time suggest something that you’d like to
do, and don’t pick up the check. Then see what happens. If you get a positive
response, good. If not, you might look for other friends who will once in a
while consider what you want.
Jill’s Sun is trine Robert’s Saturn.
The desire for self-satisfaction and the ability to work hard to attain it are
implicit in this combination. You and your partner should be easily able to
place your life goals within a clearly defined structure and, in an orderly
manner, work toward them together. You may sometimes feel pressured by your
partner or driven to be recognized and attain rewards, but the security and
support that you provide each other will probably overcome any negativity that
occurs between you. If not, you should redefine your boundaries and continue on
your chosen path. It might take time to accomplish what you want to do, but you
have the stamina to do it together, and the rewards will be worth your effort.
Robert’s Mars is semisquare Jill’s Saturn.
You could feel limited by each other because when Robert wants to keep moving,
she may feel that Jill slows her down. This may be because Jill wants to
understand and organize her partner’s activity. And Jill could be uncomfortable
when Robert tries to press her into action. The result could be a stalemate,
with neither of you able to move forward, and both of you feeling frustrated.
It may help to try working separately first, and then combine your efforts. It
would be natural for Robert to initiate the plan, and Jill to work out the
details of what to do. Once the initial plan is in place and Robert can just
act without thinking, the two of you can gain momentum together. Then there
will be fewer disagreements and more accomplishments.
Jill’s Saturn is trine Robert’s Pluto.
When it comes to taking charge and asserting power, you and your partner easily
join forces to clarify, organize and analyze your goals and then take highly
effective action. While you may have slightly different ideas in regard to
authority and power, your mode of operation is similar. Both of you will either
move ahead vigorously, carefully structure a plan of attack, extensively talk
about your direction before taking action, or use your intuition to guide you.
No matter what your style of action is, ordinarily you’ll have little
disagreement on how to proceed. Once you start moving, you can overcome anyone
or anything that stands in your way. Therefore, you and your partner have the
potential for being a powerful force. Appropriate areas for your activity include
revitalizing outmoded structures, or creating channels for much-needed change.
Robert’s Saturn is trine Jill’s Uranus.
With this combination, practicality (Saturn) tends to abet creativity and
originality (Uranus). True, there may be times when Robert’s need for
organization makes Jill feel limited, or Jill’s boundary- stretching makes
Robert feel a little uncomfortable. But Robert can help to make Jill’s
creativity materialize in the real world. And Jill’s originality can provide
Robert with rewards. Then you may both view your situation as structured rather
than limiting.
Robert’s Saturn is conjunct Jill’s North Node.
When the two of you interact with others, you could feel a sense of burden or
limitation. As a couple you might find that you’re always taking care of these
people, or that you’re always responsible for the activities that you share
with them. If you consider it your duty to be their teachers or guardians, the
relationships may not be so pleasurable, but at least they’ll have some purpose.
Your connections with others can, however, be more satisfying. This combination
gives the ability to view others realistically, so try to evaluate people
before you become involved. You may still often find yourselves in charge, but,
through careful scrutiny, you can select either people to whom you can delegate
some of the responsibilities, or choose those who will give you something in
return for your hard work.
Robert’s Moon is sextile Jill’s Uranus.
When emotions are involved, you and your partner naturally share an air of
electricity. No matter how long you’ve been together, there’s an easily-ignited
spark of excitement between you. Because of your interaction, there can be some
inconsistency in the way you each behave, but you know down deep that you can
count on help from your partner. Jill may use unusual means, but she can make
Robert feel comfortable to express her feelings freely. And Robert’s emotional
emotional support can help Jill to be more individual and creative. You may not
always know what to expect next from each other, but you know that you’ll get
help when you need it, and you’ll probably never be bored.
Robert’s Mars is square Jill’s Uranus.
You have the ability to make each other more spontaneous, and you may find that
you get things done more quickly together that you can by yourselves. However,
when you’re working together you may also be less patient. Sometimes you may
move so quickly that you get careless and don’t take time to think things
through. Not paying attention to important details can mean that the result of
your work falls short of expectations. You can avoid shoddiness by making the
actions you take together short-term. Divide a job into short segments. You can
still move at a good pace, but, because you can check the results at each
stage, you’ll catch any mistakes quickly. Then the end-results will be much
more satisfactory.
Robert’s Jupiter is semisextile Jill’s Uranus.
With this combination you’re connecting the principles of development and
growth (Jupiter) with the ideas of individuality and creativity (Uranus). But
you may have very different viewpoints on these subjects, and if either of you
tries too hard to push your ideas on your partner, it could create a problem
between you. If Robert is pressured, she could expand her horizons without
considering her partner. And if Jill is prodded, she could express her
individuality without a thought about Robert. Instead, you should take turns
leading the way while the other adjusts to your direction. Robert could pursue
developmental goals while Jill adds creative ideas, and then Jill could be
permitted to be creative while Robert expands the viewpoint without interfering
with the creative spark. In this way, you’ll each be growing individually, and
as a couple you’ll become increasingly creative.
Robert’s Saturn is trine Jill’s Uranus.
With this combination, practicality (Saturn) tends to abet creativity and
originality (Uranus). True, there may be times when Robert’s need for
organization makes Jill feel limited, or Jill’s boundary- stretching makes
Robert feel a little uncomfortable. But Robert can help to make Jill’s
creativity materialize in the real world. And Jill’s originality can provide
Robert with rewards. Then you may both view your situation as structured rather
than limiting.
Jill’s Uranus is trine Robert’s Neptune.
This combination between your charts connects spirituality and artistry
(Neptune) with individuality, creativity, change and revolutionary tendencies
(Uranus), and in your case they blend very well. Together, you and your partner
could have new ideas about religion or create original works of art. Or you
might just enjoy your non-conforming belief system or artistic tastes. You may
not fully understand why your interaction sparks unusual spiritual or artistic
ideas, but having faith in your beliefs and your shared creativity is far more
important than proving things to others. The end results and your personal
feelings about them are reason enough.
Jill’s Uranus is conjunct Robert’s North Node.
Jill may make an odd impression on the people that Robert tries to bring into
the relationship, or may try to avoid them. A happier possibility is that the
two of you may attract unusual people. They may be intellectually stimulating,
creative and/or unconventional. Or they may just be different from the two of
you, so that if you’re conventional, they’ll be non-conforming, and if you’re
the bohemian type, they’ll be quite normal by societal standards. Instead of
being concerned about being drawn to strange people, forget about it and allow
yourselves to enjoy the new and exciting things that they can bring to your
life.
Robert’s Uranus is square Jill’s Nodes.
Problems could arise between you if Robert tries to avoid the people that Jill
brings into the relationship, or if she seems strange and unusual to her
friends. Jill could get upset if her friends complain about Robert, or she
could feel the loss of her friends if Robert refuses to socialize with them.
You can effectively deal with this by making Robert’s interaction with Jill’s
friends very short, and doing something so exciting or creative that there will
be little room to act strangely or get bored.
Jill’s Neptune is conjunct Robert’s Midheaven.
Together you and your partner could project either a charismatic or a confusing
image to the outer world. Actually, these two possibilities are not mutually
exclusive. It could be that the lack of clarity that surrounds you as a couple
is what others find intriguing about you. If you’re connected professionally,
you’d do best to be involved in a spiritual or creative endeavor. And you
should concentrate on instilling faith in those you deal with, because they
certainly won’t be drawn to your down-to-earth qualities. People who see the
two of you as vulnerable or gullible might try to manipulate you. However, if
you’re aware of what they’re doing, the two of you as a couple can beat them at
their own game.
Jill’s Sun is trine Robert’s Neptune.
You’re drawn to each other, but because of the nebulous quality of Neptune, you
may not understand exactly why. In the same way, the world will probably be
drawn to you as a couple. Because of your being together, there’s a magic veil
drawn over you that renders you glamorous, either physically or in a less
tangible way. Jill’s life force and direction works in such harmony with
Robert’s spiritual yearnings that together you can easily achieve goals that
combine these two themes. Because these energies flow with so little effort on
your part, you might not consciously determine your direction. If you find
yourselves going off course, veering at times too heavily toward ego and at
other times toward self-sacrifice, you can rely on your intuition (especially
Robert’s intuition) to get you back on your path.
Jill’s Venus is sesquare Robert’s Neptune.
There’s a strong, hard-to-describe love connection between you and your
partner, and at times you may believe that you have a perfect relationship. But
human beings are far from perfect, and you have to live in the real world.
Periodically, the lovely illusion may dissolve, leaving you noticing the faults
more often than the good points of your partner. If you do more criticizing
than appreciating, remember the feeling of love that you can experience
together. Then, every time you start to criticize, remind yourself of one of
your partner’s strengths. As you focus on your partner’s endearing qualities,
the favorable thoughts will begin to outnumber the critical ones, and you’ll
come closer to the perfect union that you dream of.
Jill’s Uranus is trine Robert’s Neptune.
This combination between your charts connects spirituality and artistry
(Neptune) with individuality, creativity, change and revolutionary tendencies
(Uranus), and in your case they blend very well. Together, you and your partner
could have new ideas about religion or create original works of art. Or you
might just enjoy your non-conforming belief system or artistic tastes. You may
not fully understand why your interaction sparks unusual spiritual or artistic
ideas, but having faith in your beliefs and your shared creativity is far more
important than proving things to others. The end results and your personal
feelings about them are reason enough.
Jill’s Neptune is sextile Robert’s Pluto.
Neptune and Pluto have been roughly in sextile since the early 1940s, and so
you both probably have this aspect in your own natal charts as well. Having
this aspect between each other’s charts just reinforces a combination with
which you’re already comfortable. It’s likely that your concepts of
spirituality and power are compatible, and that you want to help each other to
develop these factors further in your lives. Although you could easily
manipulate each other, it’s more likely that Jill would enhance Robert’s power,
and Robert would add power to Jill’s spiritual beliefs. Together you could
create a powerful belief system.
Robert’s Neptune is trine Jill’s North Node.
With this combination, the spirituality and artistic creativity of Neptune are
connected with relationships, especially the ones that Jill brings to the
partnership. So, the people with whom you interact as a couple may be very
spiritual and/or artistic. How or why the two of you interact with these
individuals may not be clear to outsiders. Because it’s based on feelings, not
facts, you yourselves may find it hard to describe precisely what you get from
the interaction. But it’s really not necessary to explain the relationship. As
long as you feel that the interaction is artistically stimulating or is helping
you to become more highly evolved, stay with it. If the involvement benefits
all parties, it doesn’t matter what outsiders think.
Jill’s Moon is semisextile Robert’s Pluto.
“Power” and “emotion” are excellent words to describe this combination. But
powerful emotions can materialize either as passion that you share or as a
weapon you that you use against each other. If you try to force your attitude
on your partner either subtly or overtly, you may evoke the weapon more often
than the passion. Instead, you should take turns allowing each other’s needs to
be in the foreground. Jill should provide emotional support for Robert’s desire
for empowerment and not attempt to manipulate her direction. And then Robert
should add impetus to her partner’s expression of feelings without interference
or attempting to control. In other words, you should each adjust periodically
to the other’s needs without thinking of your own. In that way, you’ll both
ultimately achieve what you want, you’ll feel supported by your partner, and
your passion will start to flow more freely.
Jill’s Mercury is sextile Robert’s Pluto.
Jill wants to help Robert express personal power more effectively, and Robert
is bent on assisting Jill to communicate better. As a couple, you can therefore
have a powerful impact on both each other and the world. Whether or not it’s
your goal, you’ll surely be heard. The only danger is that you might sometimes
come across too strongly or get carried away with your power. However, this
combination also gives the ability to analyze, get to the bottom of issues, and
determine the best course of action. These skills, plus your urge to help each
other, are great assets in your relationship, because whatever difficulties may
arise, you have a talent for together getting to the root of the matter and
transforming your circumstances.
Jill’s Venus is square Robert’s Pluto.
While this aspect indicates that you and your partner could share a deep and
unbounded love, you may first need to overcome some obstacles. One issue that could
arise between you is power. Either of you could become concerned about your
partner trying to control you, and this could interfere with your desire to
show affection. If you more often vie for position than make love, you may want
to try and change your approach. Implicit in this combination is the
possibility of transformation. So, if you and your partner analyze the
situation together, you could find ways to change your relationship. And, when
you’re expressing love and not waging war, you’ll know that it has been worth
the effort.
Jill’s Mars is sextile Robert’s Pluto.
You and your partner are likely to be more powerful when you’re together than
either of you is individually. Jill may prod Robert to assume more power, and
Robert can use this power to make her more effective in taking the initiative.
When you’re together, the two of you are therefore more likely to be leaders
than followers. Through your relationship, both of you have energy, the
potential to lead, and a desire to help your partner to attain greater and
greater heights. The worst problem that could arise is that you would be so
intent on helping each other that you forget to consider the thoughts or wishes
of others. If people complain or refuse to cooperate, you could flex your muscles
to make them conform, but you might produce better results and get more
cooperation if you play the benevolent dictators and help others as much as you
help each other.
Jill’s Saturn is trine Robert’s Pluto.
When it comes to taking charge and asserting power, you and your partner easily
join forces to clarify, organize and analyze your goals and then take highly
effective action. While you may have slightly different ideas in regard to
authority and power, your mode of operation is similar. Both of you will either
move ahead vigorously, carefully structure a plan of attack, extensively talk
about your direction before taking action, or use your intuition to guide you.
No matter what your style of action is, ordinarily you’ll have little
disagreement on how to proceed. Once you start moving, you can overcome anyone
or anything that stands in your way. Therefore, you and your partner have the
potential for being a powerful force. Appropriate areas for your activity
include revitalizing outmoded structures, or creating channels for much-needed
change.
Jill’s Neptune is sextile Robert’s Pluto.
Neptune and Pluto have been roughly in sextile since the early 1940s, and so
you both probably have this aspect in your own natal charts as well. Having
this aspect between each other’s charts just reinforces a combination with
which you’re already comfortable. It’s likely that your concepts of
spirituality and power are compatible, and that you want to help each other to
develop these factors further in your lives. Although you could easily
manipulate each other, it’s more likely that Jill would enhance Robert’s power,
and Robert would add power to Jill’s spiritual beliefs. Together you could
create a powerful belief system.
Robert’s Mercury is opposite Jill’s Pluto.
Robert’s communication skills are connected with Jill’s need for power and her
ability to analyze deeply. If you try to blend these qualities too closely,
however, power problems could erupt. For example, you might disagree as to who
should be the spokesperson or who should be in charge of content. It’s better
if you use these energies to bolster each other. Robert should speak her mind,
with Jill adding power to the words when necessary. And Jill should assert
power, which Robert may verbalize when appropriate. If you take this approach,
you’ll probably find that you’ll battle each other less, and as a couple, you
can have a powerful voice in the world.
Jill’s Sun is conjunct Robert’s North Node.
Interaction with others likely to be an important part of your relationship.
Robert will tend to be the one who brings people into the partnership, and Jill
will probably play a very visible role with them. Robert could either take
pride in the impression that her partner makes and bask in it a bit herself, or
be envious because she feels that her partner hogs the limelight. Jill could
either enjoy the recognition or feel too exposed. Remember that you’re a team,
and that you can share the spotlight. You will then most likely be a very
sought-after couple, and will have a good time socializing.
Jill’s Uranus is conjunct Robert’s North Node.
Jill may make an odd impression on the people that Robert tries to bring into
the relationship, or may try to avoid them. A happier possibility is that the
two of you may attract unusual people. They may be intellectually stimulating,
creative and/or unconventional. Or they may just be different from the two of
you, so that if you’re conventional, they’ll be non-conforming, and if you’re
the bohemian type, they’ll be quite normal by societal standards. Instead of
being concerned about being drawn to strange people, forget about it and allow
yourselves to enjoy the new and exciting things that they can bring to your
life.
Robert’s Sun is semisquare Jill’s North Node.
Areas such as getting personal gratification and interacting with others could
become mild sources of irritation in your partnership. Robert could dislike
Jill’s acquaintances, or they could complain that Robert is obnoxious or
self-centered. Unfortunately, Robert cannot hide in their presence. If you must
be with these people, there will be less friction if Jill tries whenever
possible to interact with them by herself, and Robert seeks appreciation and
personal gratification from another set of friends.
Robert’s Moon is conjunct Jill’s South Node.
Emotions and an urge to nurture may play a prominent part in the relationships
that you as a couple have with others. You may judge these people not by logic,
but by feelings and intuition, and may be easily upset by what they say or do.
It’s also possible that your interactions with these people may have an
emotional impact on your feelings for each other. You might see your partner
through the eyes of these people, and if the impression is unfavorable, it could
create a rift between you.
You probably spend more
time with your partner than with these other individuals, so before you try to
make drastic changes in your partnership, try to cultivate people who think
that both you and your partner are great human beings. You might then discover
that you have no problem at all.
Robert’s Venus is semisquare Jill’s North Node.
When you’re out socializing together, irritations may arise. Robert might not
feel appreciated by the people Jill brings to the relationship, or they might
see her as too flirtatious, shallow or self-centered. This could cause Jill to
feel torn between her partner and her friends. To ease the situation, you might
want to seek out other people with whom you can interact as a couple, and you
might want to let Robert do most of the choosing. The same type of situation
might repeat itself, but if it does, you can just keep moving from group to
group. If you don’t spend a lot of time with any one set of acquaintances,
there may be enough contact to have a good time but not enough time to form
complaints.
Robert’s Jupiter is quincunx Jill’s North Node.
As a couple, you and your partner want to interact with individuals or groups
who will help you to grow and develop. But you may find that you tend to adjust
to their needs much more often than they adjust to yours. For example, you
might see that you’re always involved in activities that they choose, or
that you end up treating them and they rarely, if ever, treat you. If you often
feel taken advantage of, next time suggest something that you’d like to
do, and don’t pick up the check. Then see what happens. If you get a positive
response, good. If not, you might look for other friends who will once in a
while consider what you want.
Robert’s Saturn is conjunct Jill’s North Node.
When the two of you interact with others, you could feel a sense of burden or
limitation. As a couple you might find that you’re always taking care of these
people, or that you’re always responsible for the activities that you share
with them. If you consider it your duty to be their teachers or guardians, the
relationships may not be so pleasurable, but at least they’ll have some
purpose. Your connections with others can, however, be more satisfying. This
combination gives the ability to view others realistically, so try to evaluate
people before you become involved. You may still often find yourselves in
charge, but, through careful scrutiny, you can select either people to whom you
can delegate some of the responsibilities, or choose those who will give you
something in return for your hard work.
Robert’s Uranus is square Jill’s Nodes.
Problems could arise between you if Robert tries to avoid the people that Jill
brings into the relationship, or if she seems strange and unusual to her
friends. Jill could get upset if her friends complain about Robert, or she
could feel the loss of her friends if Robert refuses to socialize with them.
You can effectively deal with this by making Robert’s interaction with Jill’s
friends very short, and doing something so exciting or creative that there will
be little room to act strangely or get bored.
Robert’s Neptune is trine Jill’s North Node.
With this combination, the spirituality and artistic creativity of Neptune are
connected with relationships, especially the ones that Jill brings to the
partnership. So, the people with whom you interact as a couple may be very
spiritual and/or artistic. How or why the two of you interact with these
individuals may not be clear to outsiders. Because it’s based on feelings, not
facts, you yourselves may find it hard to describe precisely what you get from
the interaction. But it’s really not necessary to explain the relationship. As
long as you feel that the interaction is artistically stimulating or is helping
you to become more highly evolved, stay with it. If the involvement benefits
all parties, it doesn’t matter what outsiders think.
Jill’s and Robert’s North Nodes are in trine.
The two of you are drawn to similar types of people, and so you are each likely
to fit in easily with the other’s associates and feel comfortable with them.
Being similar, the people in each partner’s circle of friends are likely to
blend in well together. Not only that, the way in which you and your partner
interact with others is similar or at least complementary. All this makes it
easier for you to form relationships as a couple.
Jill’s Neptune is conjunct Robert’s Midheaven.
Together you and your partner could project either a charismatic or a confusing
image to the outer world. Actually, these two possibilities are not mutually
exclusive. It could be that the lack of clarity that surrounds you as a couple
is what others find intriguing about you. If you’re connected professionally,
you’d do best to be involved in a spiritual or creative endeavor. And you
should concentrate on instilling faith in those you deal with, because they
certainly won’t be drawn to your down-to-earth qualities. People who see the
two of you as vulnerable or gullible might try to manipulate you. However, if
you’re aware of what they’re doing, the two of you as a couple can beat them at
their own game.
Using This Chart-Comparison Analysis
You may have consulted this report to confirm whether a new acquaintance is
worth developing. If so, use it to gain perspective on yourself, and learn what
sort of a partner would make you feel more complete. Use it to become conscious
of your own biases in perceiving the other person, and the other’s biases in
perceiving you. Use it also to gain clarity about the themes and dynamics that
would be most likely to surface in your life together.
Do not, however, expect
everything in your charts to point to a perfect relationship. Virtually every
coupling has its challenges. If there were no challenges, there would be no possibility
for growth. Some partners may make you happier and better able to function. Or,
you may unconsciously attract someone to provoke the crises you need to grow.
What most people need in a relationship is a balance of challenges to keep the
relationship dynamic, and havens of comfort where they can relax and be
themselves.
Where this report really
shines is when you’re already in a relationship. Few relationships are smooth
sailing all of the time, but most are worth preserving. At the moment that
rough weather comes up, you may see only the bad parts, so it’s helpful then to
be reminded of the inherent strengths in your relationship. Also, when times
are hard, or if you just seem to be going nowhere together, remember that life
is testing you, posing you a challenge. When you search for an answer, you grow
in wisdom. Hopefully, this report can provide the clues you need, enlarging
your range of vision so you can see where to navigate next.
Rather than assuming that
we have only one ideal soul-mate, this report takes the view that there are
many possible partners for most, if not all, of us. It assumes that most
pairings can be viable if both partners are willing to work at it. It also
assumes that no partnership is so nearly perfect that it can be taken for
granted. Since we are dealing with two separate wills, there are always
adjustments and compromises that we can make to fine-tune a partnership and
make it deeper, happier and more rewarding.
Close relationships are
usually so bound up with our hopes and fears that most of us tend not to see
either ourselves or our partners as clearly as we might. By mirroring your
whole self, your astrological chart helps you see what lurks in your blind
spots. In lifting you out of habitual ways of thinking, astrology can broaden
your range of possibilities for action and growth.
Whether yours is a new or
an established relationship, remember that it is a precious opportunity for
your own and your partner’s evolution.
A Chart for Your Relationship
Have you ever noticed how people change when they are with someone? How
together they exhibit traits and actions that they did not show as individuals?
This is because when two people establish an ongoing relationship, a new entity
starts to form, one that takes on a life of its own. This is the relationship
itself, which is “born” from the unique interaction between two people.
The quality of two people’s
relationship is shown astrologically by their Composite Chart. Your composite
chart is made up of the midpoints between the natal charts of each of you. For
example, the position of the composite Sun is mid-way between the Sun in your
birth chart and the Sun in your partner’s chart. And so it goes for all the
composite planetary positions.
The interpretations that
follow take a close look at the way you as a couple relate to the outside
world. This may or may not be the way you would each act as individuals. This
report also supplements a regular chart-comparison reading by giving further
insights about your interactions with each other.
The Overall Balance in Your Composite Chart
Before looking at each individual point in the composite chart, let’s look at
the chart as a whole to see if any signs, houses, or other factors stand out as
either particularly prominent or outstandingly absent. This can give a quick
idea of the more important themes in your relationship.
Few or no planets in Fire signs
This suggests that you and your partner are probably not overtly demonstrative
as a couple. Although you may feel inner warmth and enthusiasm, it is not easy
for you to show it. It also may be difficult for you to be spontaneous, or to
take the initiative. To get moving, you might need someone to light a fire
under you. To avoid total lethargy and complaints about a lack of
accomplishment, you might want to include stimulating people in your life.
Avoid, however, those who have too much energy or are too forceful, as they
could exhaust or overwhelm you. If you associate with individuals who are
moderately warm and enthusiastic, they can give you the gentle nudge that you
need.
Many planets in Air signs
Therefore, communications tend to be
essential to the way that you and your partner operate as a couple. It is
probably easier for you to talk about what you are going to do than it is to
take action. You can usually grasp the overview of what needs to be done, but
may find it difficult to determine the precise route to your goals. So you
think, talk and listen, but do not necessarily move.
Because you are objective
and readily understand the views of others, when you ultimately begin to take
action you will incorporate the ideas that you believe are appropriate. In
fact, you may take action more rapidly if you think you are acting on behalf of
an individual or of humanity in general.
Although you consider
others in what you do, you are not unduly influenced by any particular group or
individual. Because of your objectivity, you can be equally swayed by everyone,
so that you have difficulty making up your minds. Be aware that you could wait
so long to take action that you miss opportunities. However, verbalizing ideas
and potential plans could be the first step in making them materialize. So keep
the lines of communications open. This will not only help you understand each
other better, it can also assist you in making decisions. Eventually, after you
have thought, discussed and planned, you can begin to move.
Many planets in Fixed signs
An above-average number of planets in Fixed signs and/or houses suggests that
when you are operating as a couple, you and your partner are persistent and
usually follow through once you start on a path. After you have begun to move
in a particular direction, however, it is difficult for you to make changes and
you may stick to old ways and well-worn paths longer than you should. You do
not usually ask for advice, and probably do not accept it graciously or even
listen when it is offered. Therefore, you may be viewed by others as stubborn.
Because you resist streamlining your methods, you may slowly plod along, even
when new ways could help you to move more quickly. Ultimately your tenacity and
your focus on your goals will help you to succeed. In spite of your stubbornness,
your reliability and persistence may cause people to seek you out for help in
achieving their goals.
Having a higher-than-average number of planets in any one sign in your
composite chart gives even more particular information about the outstanding
qualities your relationship.
A strong Pisces emphasis
With such a large number of planets in Pisces, you and your partner can show
tremendous compassion toward other people, identifying with them so closely
that you empathize rather than sympathize. You may also give to others to the
point of total self-sacrifice. There is a fine line between helping and having
others take advantage of you. It is gratifying for you to assist others, but if
you allow the people you help to provide some service for you, everyone will
benefit.
Other possibilities of this
combination are the imagination that you and your partner can share, and/or a
telepathic connection between the two of you. You can use the imagination to be
creative or to occasionally escape from the real world. If you discover that
you have a telepathic tie, you may be able to use it to communicate when you
are far from each other. However, if you are able to do that, you had better be
careful of what you think, because the connection may not be easily turned off!
Your Basic Style of Relating
Assuming that both you and your partner have given relatively accurate birth
times, the Ascendant of your composite chart is one of the most powerful
indicators of the quality of your relationship. The sign on your composite
Ascendant gives important clues about how you as a couple relate to the outside
world, the type of people you are drawn to, and how others perceive your
relationship. It can also show how you relate to each other. Any planet
conjunct or in some other close aspect to the composite Ascendant is likely to
symbolize one of the strongest themes in your life together.
Composite Ascendant in Scorpio
No matter what your natal charts indicate, you probably need some privacy and
time alone. This could mean shared privacy and time alone from others. Or it
could indicate that you need some solitude even away from your partner. If
either of you ever feels shut out by the other, your should analyze the
situation together. If you keep your resentment inside, you could become
obsessed with it and instead of bonding, vindictiveness might take over.
Whatever you do is done wholeheartedly and with intensity, whether the
interaction is between the two of you, or through your partnership, with
others. So you can make faithful and trustworthy friends or partners, or you
could become formidable adversaries.
Because you concentrate so
intensely on relationships, and have a need for a degree of privacy, you
probably do not let too many people get close to you. But for the few best
friends you seek out, loyalty and trust are important to you as a couple. So
you are likely to be drawn to people who will be as reliable as you, and
reliability usually includes tenacity or stubbornness. Therefore, ultimately
you could find that the close friends you choose are as stubborn as the two of
you. But they will undoubtedly be consistent and predictable in their behavior,
which should make you comfortable with them. If situations arise on which you
cannot agree, and it looks as though no one will win, those may be the times to
fulfill your joint need for solitude. Then when you and your partner renew the
relationship with these individuals you can start afresh.
Mercury sesquare Ascendant
Communications are an important part of the joint personality that you and your
partner project. But, with this aspect, although you will be noticed for your
communications, you might not always be viewed favorably. You might talk too
much about yourselves so you bore others. Or you could be too outspoken and be
considered tactless. The advantage of this combination, however, no matter what
their aspect, is that you should be able to talk to each other and to the
world. You each can speak your minds when you are together. You might sometimes
become upset with what your partner says to you. But it is better out than
bottled up. And because of the openness, resentment will probably not build
between you. In addition, if you talk about yourselves when you are alone with
each other, you should be able to find more interesting topics to discuss when
you are out in the world.
Saturn square Ascendant
You and your partner each want to provide security for the other and you also
need structure and clarity in your relationship. But with this aspect, as you are
trying to better understand your partner, either or both of you could make
suggestions or ask questions about your partner’s personality that might be
interpreted as criticism. So you think your partner is disapproving of you. And
if you believe you are being told how you to behave you can feel restricted as
well. Whether you both are critics, or only one of you plays this role, do not
just tolerate the situation and feel limited. Let your partner know what you
think. Be honest and objective. And permit your partner to state feelings as
well. Through being direct and honest you will always know where you stand with
each other. Then you can provide mutual security without feeling criticized or
restricted.
Neptune sextile Ascendant
You and your partner are undoubtedly strongly attracted to each other. In
addition you each want to help your partner to develop spiritually in order to
enhance your individual personalities. And if you are assisting each other in
this manner, you cannot help but be enriched as a couple. You will also bring
out the creative element in your partner, and vice versa, so that together you
can be more artistic and creative than either of you are individually. But
there is a magic quality about all of this that defies tangible proof of your
attraction and your joint creative ability. And if you try to explain your
relationship in practical terms, you will not only find the task unsatisfying,
but you will also detract from the development and enjoyment of your
spirituality and your creativity. So, simply accept the fact that your share
your tender feelings for each other, and have faith that this will continue.
And it probably will.
North Node trine Ascendant
You and your partner, as a couple, probably fit in easily with groups of people
with whom you interact. This combination does not describe the specific roles
you play when you are involved with these people. You may fill leadership
positions or perhaps you just melt into the group. So it is possible that you
will be noted and appreciated if you stand out in the group. Or you could just
add to the ambience if you blend in. But either way, you will be accepted.
Therefore, this facet of your partnership should not be problematical for you.
You know that there are always people the two of you can interact with without
effort. In fact, if you are having problems in another area of you life, you
can usually get temporary relief by going out and mingling with others. Since
you and your partner are so easily accepted by these individuals, you might
more readily see the good points in each other through their eyes, and that
could make other problems that arise between you, easier to solve.
Public vs Private Life
Situated at the top of the horoscope wheel is the point called the Midheaven. Also
based on your exact time of birth, the Midheaven is another of the
all-important “personal points” of the horoscope. The sign on your composite
Midheaven shows your image as a couple in public life, and the reputation that
the two of you have in the outside world. It can also indicate goals for which
you are striving.
The Midheaven is always
exactly opposite the I.C., a point at the bottom of the horoscope wheel. The
sign on your I.C. describes the quality of the home, family and private life
that you will experience as a couple.
Venus quincunx Midheaven
In this combination, charm and sociability are connected with career or public
image. However, this aspect indicates that there is a need for some kind of
adjustment. So it will probably be difficult to just sit back and naturally
enjoy your shared role in the outside world. If you are having too good a time
out in public, you may feel as though you are not accomplishing anything
meaningful. But if you are only working hard in the world you will miss the fun
that should also be part of your lives. One way to deal with this dilemma is to
alternate focus on your public and private roles. For a time, one partner
should emphasize the public image while the other uses charm in the background
to promote the that image. Then sociability should be placed in the foreground,
with one partner using the public image or career to promote the sociability.
You may take turns playing the various roles, or always play the same roles.
But whatever path you choose, as a unit, both your public and private needs
will probably be met.
Saturn conjunct Imum Coeli
With this combination there is a connection between structure and/or
organization and career or the shared public image you and your partner
project. However, neither of you should try to structure your public life or
either of your careers directly. Even if your motivation is purely to organize,
either or both of you could feel criticized or restricted by the other if you
are on the receiving side of the directing. Instead, you should focus together
on structuring your life at home with the emphasis on security. If you feel
safe and secure together in your private life, neither of you may feel driven
to influence your partner’s structure in the outer world. Or possibly all that
structure at home will have an indirect impact on your career(s) or joint
public image. So that you both become more organized out in the world without
direction.
Uranus trine Midheaven
You and your partner can easily express originality and creativity when you are
dealing with the public. If you share a career, you need variety and challenge.
You do not want a job that is predictable so you undoubtedly avoid firm
schedules because they are too restrictive. If there are extenuating circumstances
that force you to make a schedule, you will spend more time looking for ways to
change it, than follow it. But whether or not you share a career, you probably
enjoy stirring up a little excitement whenever you are out in the world. You
enjoy being non-conforming, and you could become bored if your public life is
too calm. But there is little chance of being bored, because in addition to be
self- motivating, people will probably be drawn to the two of you when they are
looking for adventure or a creative approach to life. And you will rarely, if
ever, disappoint them.
Your Conscious Identity
Just as the Sun by far makes up most of the mass of the solar system, the
astrological Sun is in a sense the center of gravity in any chart. The
composite Sun is no exception. The sign and house that it falls into are, like
the signs of the Ascendant and Midheaven, likely to signal dominant themes in a
relationship.
The ruler of daytime and
our primary source of light and energy, the Sun symbolizes our own life energy.
In terms of our psyches, it symbolizes the conscious side, and hence has much
to do with our egos, our conscious sense of who we are.
Sun in Pisces
There can be a deep, spiritual connection between you and your partner and
joint ego gratification will likely involve non-tangible rewards rather than
material ones. In fact, your own ego gratification may come as the result of
helping other people and not on personally receiving anything for yourselves.
Do be careful of being too self-sacrificing. Remind yourself, that it is
blessed both to give and to receive! You might even use that statement as an
affirmation.
Another possibility with
this placement is that together you can have a vivid imagination. So you might
not always be realistic in your view of the world and you could sometimes tend
to delude yourselves about people and situations. However, should this occur,
or to avoid having this happen, you could choose to use your imagination
creatively. Write a fairy tale, dance, play or listen music together. You might
be surprised at how well this approach works.
Still another way to use
this placement, is to periodically escape from the real world. You cannot
escape forever but occasionally spend an evening or a week-end living a
fantasy. Relax, create romantic memories. If you do this from time to time it
may make the material world more palatable when you return. And who knows, you
imagination might also be used to manipulate your physical environment
effectively.
Sun in the Fifth
If you and your partner share children, you could take pride in them and shine
through them. But if you totally focus on your children instead of yourselves,
you will feel just as responsible for their failures as their successes and
your joint ego gratification will be based on the behavior of others. It is not
suggested that you ignore your children. Infact you can still take credit or
blame for what they accomplish. But this area also represents creativity, and
if you find a talent the two of you can develop or express, you can shine by
yourselves. You may not always get the accolades you are seeking, but the
potential for ego gratification through creativity is in the chart and if you
fail at one type of creativity, you and your partner can look for a new way to
express your talents. Thus your satisfaction will be based on what the two you
do and will not be dependent on the actions of others.
Sun square Moon
This combination could create some tension between you and your partner in
regard to ego and emotional gratification. One of you might feel that the other
is too self-centered and oblivious to your emotional needs. And the other could
find the partner too emotional or manipulative. It is difficult to say which of
you plays which role because you are each capable of performing in either
manner. And, it may be that you alternate unacceptable behavior. However, there
are remedies that could be effective. The one who is accused of being
self-centered can pay a little more attention to the other’s emotional needs.
And the emotional partner can try to be a little more nurturing. Since you
could experience role reversals, work on becoming adept at both modes of
behavior. This could not only alleviate the immediate problem, but it could
also give you a greater understanding of what your partner periodically feels.
This should make you more sympathetic so that you willing take care of each
other.
Sun conjunct Mercury
You and your partner could energetically communicate with each other and be
visible to the outer world as communicators as well. Among your favorite topics
could be your ego gratification or the life direction the two of you are
taking, or would like to take. If you talk to each other a great deal about
these matters, it may always be interesting to you unless one of you is going
all the talking and the other all the listening. Should you be the disgruntled
partner doing all the listening, you need not continue to suffer. Speak up.
After all this is an aspect your share and your input is just as relevant as
your partner’s. So this can be easily solved. However, when you are
communicating with others, if the two of you only talk about your goals and
life direction, you might find that you are considered self-centered. If you
find that people get annoyed with your emphasis on yourselves, you could use
your energetic communications on many topics. So talk about what others are
interested in discussing, and you may be more appreciated. Which is, after all
your ultimate goal.
Sun conjunct Venus
This combination is indicative of an attractiveness that you and your partner
project because you are together. You need not be physically beautiful or
handsome, you just tend to bring out charm and a poise in each other that
people will experience when they interact with you. You may not be viewed as
ambitious or brilliant (that would depend on other factors in the chart), but
your company should be sought after because you are pleasurable to be with. And
as individuals you should enjoy being with each other as well. After all, who
can complain about being arm-in-arm with someone who makes you look good and
feel good about who you are. Just as you may not be viewed as ambitious or
brilliant by others, this combination will not help you bring out these
qualities in each other. But as long as the two of you are happy, what
difference does it make?
Sun conjunct Mars
You and your partner could energize each other, and together energize and
stimulate others. Because of the high energy level you are capable of being
industrious and accomplishing a great deal. However, if these energies are not
applied productively, you could find that either or both of you anger quickly.
This might still be true, even if you are utilizing the energy positively, but,
in such cases, the anger would be short-lived because the energy is being
expended rather than pent up. You should not hold anger in. But if it
frequently erupts between you and interferes with your productivity, find a
physical activity you can share while you talk. This activity should require
energy, but not mental concentration because you want to focus on the anger.
Once the anger is faced, it can quickly dissipate because much of your joint
energy is being used in the activity. Then you can return to productivity and
taking pride in what you can accomplish.
Sun semisquare Saturn
With this combination, you and your partner share a need for ego gratification
that is connected with hard work or structure. But with this aspect, you might
feel that either your partner, or outside forces present restrictions on you so
that you find it difficult to attain the ego gratification you are seeking.
However, it is your joint ego that is involved. And if one of you is feeling
frustration trying to attain personal gratification, then your shared goals
will remain out of reach as well. You can, however, achieve success. It will
take effort, but that is what Saturn is all about. Accept the fact that you
must work slowly. Form a plan with a series of steps. Do not skip over any
steps, and evaluate what you have accomplished after you have completed each
one. You may sometimes still feel frustrated and restricted. But keep focused
on your goals. You can eventually achieve what you want and your joint
gratification will strengthen you as a couple. Then you will present a united
front. So if outsiders try to restrict you, you can easily ward off their
attempts.
Your Feeling Nature
The composite Moon governs the emotional expression of you as a couple toward
the outside world. It can also indicate the tone of your emotional interactions
with each other and the way your nurturing and nesting impulses are expressed.
Moon in Gemini
You and your partner probably find it easier to talk about your feelings than
to show them. Overt display of emotions could be uncomfortable, and even
serious discussion of deep feelings might embarrass you. So you are likely to
make light of the way you feel. Although you will each participate in this
approach to feelings, you could sometimes wonder if your partner really cares,
especially if your own personal mode of handling feelings is quite different.
If you do not show deep
emotions freely with each other, you certainly are not going to be
demonstrative in public, either. No host need be concerned about emotional
outbursts from the two of you, and you could probably be counted on to help set
a light tone at any gathering. Also, few are likely to come to the two of you
with their problems. Some may try it once or twice, but when they do not
receive the response they want, they will stop trying to burden you.
Your reaction does not mean
that you are uncaring or incapable of deep feeling. It is just that it is hard
to find the appropriate words to show the sympathy or emotions that you feel.
Each of you should keep this in mind if you find yourself questioning your
partner’s feelings. Just learn to read between the lines, or beyond the light
repartee.
Moon in the Eighth
There is undoubtedly a connection between sex and emotions in your partnership.
This could mean that you and your partner are nurturing toward each other and
share tenderness in your sex life. Or, on the other hand, it is also possible
that either or both of you might bring out emotions that are less desirable in
the other, such as sadness or anger. And it may be, because there can be
fluctuation when sex is in the picture, that you experience both extremes. You
might even enjoy experiencing both, feeling that emotional outbursts stimulate
passion and make the ultimate tenderness more gratifying. If that is the case,
continue on this path. However, if you feel emotional upsets interfere with you
sex life, you can consciously make an effort to nurture your partner. He or she
might then reciprocate and put you back on the right track.
Moon square Mercury
With this combination, you and your partner can arouse each other’s emotions
through communications. The emotions may range from tenderness to anger, and
you could experience the entire range. But with this aspect, there are likely
to be difficulties to overcome, so you might experience more anger than the
tenderness, at least initially. If this is true, make an effort to say a few
kind words to your partner. It may be just enough to bring out some gentleness
in return and anger might dissipate. Then you could experience the nurturing
and supportive side of this combination. In addition to evoking emotions in
each other, your words can have an emotional impact on those with whom you
communicate as a couple. The same range of emotions are possible. There may be
certain circumstances under which you would want to elicit anger. But if this
is all you experience with others, the two of you might try the same approach
as you do with each other. Show a little tenderness and you might receive
support in return.
Moon square Mars
Emotions and passion are connected in your relationship so there can be a
strong sexual attraction between you and your partner. In addition, you are
each capable of raising the energy level of the other through triggering the
emotions. However, with this aspect, you could tend to upset your partner
rather than bring out passion. So that you expend your energy arguing. And
there is not enough left to accomplish anything worthwhile. Nor is there the
inclination to take advantage of the sexual attraction. In fact, you could be
so angry that you temporarily forget about the attraction every time you fight.
If you are frequently upset and/or exhausted, the next time you begin to argue,
do it on the move. Let your feelings come out, but rake leaves or scrub floors
at the same time. Not only will you tend to get less angry, but you will also
see that you have accomplished something. And you might even find that the
sexual attraction is back full force.
Moon sesquare Saturn
You and your partner want to share emotional security. However, with this
aspect you might find that you frequently inhibit each other instead. You are
undoubtedly serious about your feelings for each other. It is just not easy to
express them. So you tend to hold them inside. It may take effort, but it would
be beneficial for both of you to explain your emotions in an objective manner.
Do not hurl accusations at your partner. Simply state the way you feel and
allow your partner to do the same. You could discover that you both feel
inhibited by the other. But through clarifying your situation can let it be known
that you mutually care and that you have a strong sense of responsibility for
each other. This will not cause you to show feelings with total abandon, but
you might begin to feel much more secure and much less restricted.
How You Communicate
As a couple you also develop a style of communication that differs from what
you might use alone. Whether you are direct and blunt or subtle and quiet, each
of these styles has drawbacks that you should be conscious of, as well as
strengths that you can be proud of and use to your advantage.
Mercury in Pisces
Your shared communication style is quiet, intuitive, compassionate and kind. In
fact, the two of you together are great listeners. So, others will discover
they can trust you with very private details of their lives. And your demeanor
when you are together puts people at ease. However, this necessitates that you
be careful of your boundaries and avoid people who tend to drain you.
Although others feel they
can talk to you, the two of you could have difficulty in communicating with
each other. Because such sensitivity is generated between you, either of you
might become confused by what the other is saying or about what he or she
means. This confusion can lead to misunderstandings, suspicion and imagining that
your partner is hiding something from you or that something is wrong in your
relationship. Check out your suspicions with your partner as soon as you can.
It is possible that you could have misread the communication.
Trust your intuition and
calm your overactive imagination. Use your sensitivity to commune with your
partner, at times, without words and determine what you are feeling. If you
feel good most of the time when you are together, you may just need assurance
from your partner that all is right with your love. The two of you are drawn to
spiritual or mystical topics or to participate in community service work. In
fact, helping others in need or otherwise disadvantaged may take your mind off
your own fears. Be discriminating, however, and stay away from people who may
want to take advantage of your good nature.
Mercury in the Fifth
If you and your partner have children together, communicating with them and/or
talking about them may be high on your list of priorities. Even after they
leave home you will want to keep in touch. This may not be as important to them
as it is to you because this is your chart not theirs. So if you do not hear
from the children, it is up to you to pick up the phone or the pen and contact
them. It should not be difficult to do and when you hear their voices or read
their letters you will feel better. If you and your partner are talking about
them, you may do it a great deal, and this is fine when your discussions are
between the two of you. However, these are your children and other people may
not be quite as interested in them as you are. But whether or not you have
children, there is an alternative use of this placement. The fifth house is the
area of creativity and, therefore, you and your partner should be able to use
your communicative skills in a creative manner and not focus solely on
children.
Mercury conjunct Venus
You and your partner probably enjoy talking to each other and to the outer
world as well. And those with whom you interact as a couple, will see you as
charming, tactful and facile communicators. Your conversations may not be deep,
but they should be interesting to those with whom you are socializing. With the
emphasis on being pleasant and diplomatic, it may not be easy for you to show
dissatisfaction or to lodge complaints. So your peaceful and calm demeanor
might sometimes mask anger or unhappiness. But there may be a way to get out
any negative feelings you may be harboring without creating any disharmony. In
addition to tact and charm, the two of you could share creative talent in
communicating. So if you have the urge to write together or to perform on stage
as a couple, you might find either of these possibilities will be effective in
dealing with any negativity you feel. Under such circumstances, expressing
hostility is acceptable by playing hostile roles, and you need not bring it
into your personal relationship.
Mercury conjunct Mars
As a couple, you and your partner may be outspoken and energetic in your
communications, both with each other and when you are interacting in the outer
world. In dealing with each other you could be in such a hurry to speak that
you might not wait for your partner to finish talking. Or you may be argumentative.
This could also describe your behavior when you are operating as a unit in the
world. You may be viewed as too outspoken or too brash or too loud. Or you may
be seen as honest, energetic and enthusiastic. You might not know precisely how
you will be received as you communicate. However, you will certainly not be
ignored. If you find that too often controversy follows the two of you around,
and this upsets you, you might try to do more communicating separately. Even if
you are at a gathering together, you can converse with different groups.
Another alternative is to find people that want to be stirred up. Then you can
be both natural and appreciated.
Mercury semisextile Uranus
Communications between you and your partner are probably very stimulating. You
may think faster and more creatively together than either of you do
individually. However, with this aspect you need to make adjustments. So it may
be that you could tend to act without thinking, or talk so much that you do not
get anything started. This could cause you to be annoyed at your partner. And
the world might view the two of you as impractical and/or all talk. Yet you
have the potential as a couple, to be clever, quick-thinking and creative.
There are times to talk and times to move, and together you should focus on one
and then the other. When you are emphasizing the communications, discuss
creative ideas. Look at them from various perspectives. You can do this
quickly. Then once they seem feasible, you can stop talking and take action. As
your ideas begin to materialize you will be happier together, and those with
whom you interact will see you in a much more favorable light.
Mercury trine Pluto
As a couple you and your partner are probably perceived as powerful
communicators. You also have a strong influence on each other’s thinking and
speaking. Together, you can analyze situations and undoubtedly probe more
deeply than either of you does individually. It is important to realize that
you will be heard when you are interacting with the outer world. Therefore, any
personal issues between the two of you should be dealt with in private. In that
way you can present a united front to the world. If you have any problems with
power and communications, it would probably be due to a lack of awareness of
just how influential you can be. You might, at times, come across too strongly
and overwhelm those with whom you are interacting. Should you sense this
happening, you just have to face the situation directly. Tell them that you are
not trying to control them. The force of your words should convince them,
whether or not you mean what you are saying.
Relationships and Pleasures
Your composite Venus shows your veneer, the ingratiating self you present to
the world. Pay special attention to it, because it can also show you new
possibilities for what brings you enjoyment together.
Venus in Pisces
Your shared energy can inspire others. When you are together, you tend to be
compassionate, sensitive and caring in your interactions with others. There is
a spiritual sensibility in your shared nature, which you can use in a way that
suits your beliefs. You blend easily in various environments. Although at times
you can seem shy, at other times you feel very comfortable in a crowd and
readily involve yourself in the activity at hand. Because there is a certain
willingness to meet people on a sincere level, others may feel they can take
advantage of your good nature. Make sure and use your intuition to protect
yourselves from unscrupulous individuals.
Your individual
sensitivities are more finely tuned when you are together. So, it is important
to be aware of how the company you keep makes you feel. If you are inspired
after departing from certain friends, be sure and keep them. On the other hand,
if you find yourself melancholy or even depressed after spending time with
others, re-evaluate what the association is costing you in terms of your inner
harmony. When you are alone with your partner and are able to attune yourselves
only to each other, you will easily remember the energies that drew you
together. Each of you enjoys being romantic with the other. Your romantic
expressions can include flowers, cards, gifts, whatever you choose and whatever
you can afford, even fantasy interludes of your own design. If you save time
for romantic moments alone, with your shared imagination, there should never be
a lack of magic, and this is what will keep your love fires burning.
Venus in the Fifth
If you and your partner have children, they could bring pleasure into your
lives, or you may feel that you have to bring pleasure into theirs, and
possibly both. One word of warning with this placement is that you could
over-indulge your children, and possibly spoil them. However, this area is also
connected with romance and creativity. So whether or not you have children, you
could stimulate artistry in each other and/or share romantic love. Therefore,
if you have not explored these avenues, you may want to investigate them. By
developing your talents and getting pleasure from your love for each other, you
will be expressing the energies represented by this placement in a gratifying
manner. And, if you do have children, the love you and your partner share with
each other will make your children’s behavior toward you less important. In
other words, you may enjoy their company more because you are not placing
tremendous importance on their response.
Venus conjunct Mars
This combination could indicate that you and your partner find each other
sexually appealing, so that you enjoy being together. And because of this, you
will undoubtedly see you as a charming couple. People will, therefore, find you
pleasant to be around. You might sometimes wish that you seemed more aggressive
so that you would be regarded as a force to be reckoned with. However, because
of your charming demeanor, you have the potential of being more effective than
those who are more assertive. Together you can determine what you want and use
diplomacy when taking the initiative. Others may not realize that you are
taking the lead, and because you are both so agreeable, you can usually get
what you want. So do not worry about seeming too soft. Note what you are able
to accomplish and be grateful for the talent you and your partner share.
Venus conjunct Jupiter
This combination is indicative of pleasure, fun and optimism. So you and your
partner can have a good time together. And your attitude is easily projected
into the world. Therefore, people seek your company because you make them feel
good. What is missing with this combination, however, is control. It is easy to
have fun, but difficult to know when to stop. So you could over-indulge
yourselves or over-extend yourselves financially, and lead others to do the
same. Then you could be viewed as extravagant and prone to excesses. The best
way to change such opinions is to start with the relationship that you and your
partner share. Seek some activities that are free or inexpensive, but still
pleasurable. Find places where food and drink are not served, and you can still
grow or have a good time. If there is nothing to tempt you, you will not have
worry about will power. So you can have fun without overdoing and others can
enjoy your company without negative consequences.
Venus trine Pluto
Love and affection are connected with power and passion in your relationship.
And with this aspect, the energies flow easily together. So you and your
partner can share a depth of feeling that you may not experience individually
or with many other people. The strong feelings that you have for each other are
also part of the image that you project as a couple. So you can wield power
especially when love is concerned. However, you each need to feel personally
empowered and if either of you believes that the other is trying to be
controlling, power struggles could occur. If you temper your behavior with a
show of affection, you might avoid power issues arising. Then you can each
enjoy the great passion you are capable of sharing. This is also the correct
approach in dealing with the outer world. Instead of flexing your muscles as a
couple, show a little tenderness. If you do this, you will undoubtedly get
cooperation and, without a battle, attain the power you would like to have.
Energy, Assertion and Effectiveness
Your collective level of energy and the way you go about taking action are
shown by your composite Mars. Here also is the key to how abrasive or timid you
might be. Fortunately, your Mars position also shows how you can manage anger
most effectively and find either outlets for excess energy or remedies for a
lack of it.
Mars in Pisces
Others are drawn to your shared energy although they (and you) may be unable to
define it. There is a magical and mystical energy that feels good to you when
you are together, and this is transmitted to others. As people come to know
you, they will discover you are kind, compassionate and helpful. It is your
inner convictions or beliefs that will stimulate you to take action. Your
energy together is of a gentler sort, and you might find others too aggressive
for your taste. You probably work best in the background, when allowed to
manage your tasks in your own way without too much interference. The arts,
theater or music can be of interest or even a career choice for one or both of you.
The two of you need to
protect your privacy and boundaries. Do not allow others to take advantage of
your good nature to the point where you feel overwhelmed or exhausted. It is
not just others who can drain you. If you fail to recognize your need for
balance in sleep, diet and exercise, you could easily crash. You have a
wonderful sensitivity, but it needs protection. A spiritual or contemplative
practice of some kind would alleviate negativity and give you inner strength.
Disagreements are likely to
arise due to hurt feelings. If you are criticized or feel under-appreciated in
some way, it could cause you to retreat, feel rejected or dejected. Learning to
understand your partner’s sore spots and avoiding them will minimize disharmony
between you. Then you can continue to find solace in each other and let your
relationship be an oasis from the travails of life.
Mars in the Fifth
If you and your partner have children together, they will be probably play a
critical role in how the two of you expend your joint energy. You could direct
the children, try to prod them into action, or find they prod you into action.
Or you might fight with them or fight about them. But whatever interaction you
have with, or in reference to the children, will be overt and direct. But you
need not experience the anger or nagging that can occur with Mars. It is
possible that you are just energetic when you two of you and your children are
together. And even if difficulties arise, you can probably curtail them by
finding a strenuous physical activity you can share. However, another
alternative is to focus on talents and creativity that you and your partner can
bring out in each other, and energetically throw yourselves wholeheartedly into
a hobby or an artistic project. This could take pressure off your relationship
with the children, or provide an enjoyable way to use this placement whether or
not you have children.
Mars trine Pluto
Because you and your partner are together, you easily combine action and taking
the initiative with power. You may not consciously try to take charge, but
power and initiative are so closely aligned that when situations arise that
need to be resolved, the two of you automatically take on the task at hand even
without being asked. Thus, you could be viewed by others as strong and decisive
or controling and forceful. But you will not be seen as ineffectual. And if
either or both of you tend to be subdued individually, it might take some
adjusting to get used to your joint role. You cannot, however, ignore the
ability to initiate and the tendency to control that you trigger in each other.
But it is possible to be strong without being overpowering. If, when you are
placed in a position of power, you analyze the situation thoroughly and
objectively together and then take action, you will probably be considered
effective leaders.
Broadening Your Horizons
For any relationship to stay alive, the partners need to grow together, and
become more than they were. The composite Jupiter shows the way you can do
this. It shows how you can reach out and connect with the world, how you can
both enrich and be enriched by what you encounter. Your composite Jupiter is
the key to optimism, prosperity, and good times together learning, traveling,
acquiring, entertaining or bestowing gifts. It can also alert you to areas of
dangerous excess, such as overspending, exaggerating or overeating.
Technical note: Jupiter
moves slowly enough that the sign that it is in is more an indicator of your
generation than of you personally. Since most couples are born not too many
years apart, their own natal Jupiter signs will be close together if not the
same. We therefore concentrate on the house position and aspects of composite
Jupiter, as well as of the even slower-moving planets Saturn, Uranus, Neptune
and Pluto that follow.
Jupiter in the Fifth
If you and your partner have children together, you can enjoy them tremendously
or overindulge them, or both. You could also help them to expand their horizons
by supplying opportunities for travel and/or education, either of which could
be expensive. But such expenditures would be filed under the category of
broadening rather than overindulgence. If you do not have children or even if
you do, you could choose to focus on yourselves and develop joint creativity,
or find hobbies to share that can broaden the two of you. However, you might
get so excited with the thought of being creative that you get involved in too
many activities and feel so overwhelmed by all your options that you accomplish
little. In addition, you might have to spend money on these hobbies or
projects, and if there are several you are trying, it could become expensive.
Limit your exploration to one or two, and develop those in depth. You might
discover that you have brought out a talent in each other that you can share as
a couple.
Jupiter semisextile Saturn
Expansion and contraction are connected with each other in your relationship.
But with this aspect there is a need for adjustment. So when one of you makes
plans for development, the other may focus on what is wrong with them. And
either of you can play each role. Usually the complaints and criticism will
occur just as action is beginning. So the planner is frustrated. But the other
partner is simply trying to determine the practicality of the plan. You can
avoid all of this by alternating organizing and planning. Share your plans.
Then together decide on the appropriate procedure to be followed. Take a few
steps toward your goal and reevaluate. Keep alternating the two. As you move
and see that you are succeeding, instead of feeling limited, you will know you
are growing both as individuals and as a couple. And you both will have
contributed to the process.
Handling Setbacks and Responsibilities
Being yoked together in any committed relationship implies that you are in it
through the difficulties as well as the good times. Your composite Saturn can
indicate how you can use these difficulties to strengthen your relationship and
make it more strong and solid. Saturn
shows the sense of limitation that can come from being yoked together, but it
also shows how you can deal with this for a happier, more lasting time
together.
Saturn in the Third
You and your partner could be serious and/or feel limited when you are communicating
as a couple. This applies to communications between the two of you and with the
outside world. You may feel restricted in your social conversations and not be
adept at light repartee, telling jokes or discussing trivia. But you could have
valuable information to impart to others. Though you might not be viewed as
comedians, you could be seen as good teachers.
On a personal level, either
of you could believe that your partner does not understand what you are saying.
One of the strengths of this placement, however, is clarity. If you both make
an effort to be clear, honest and concise, you may find that you really can
understand each other more than you thought possible.
Spontaneity and Surprises
In many ways Uranus provides relief from the solemn confinement of Saturn. Just
when life seems too dull and regular, just when cabin fever is at its height,
Uranus comes along to crack a joke, poke a hole in the wall that Saturn has
erected, and let in some fresh air. Your composite Uranus shows how the two of
you will handle individuality and eccentricity, and where irresponsibility or
unpredictability might become an issue.
Uranus in the Sixth
You and your partner might not find it easy to follow a daily routine together.
If you try to cooperate too closely, either or both of you could feel that your
partner interferes with the way you operate. Or, you may not have the patience
as a couple to focus on a single task for long periods of time. So some jobs
may be left incomplete. If either of these descriptions fit the way you work
together, you have several choices as to what you might do. You can tolerate
the situation as is and occasionally rebel or frequently leave jobs half
finished. Or you can work independently. You may then compare notes if you
think togetherness is important or just be happy that each of you is capable of
accomplishment. Another possibility is not to established a daily routine and
work together when the mood hits you. The spontaneity of the situation may keep
the two of you excited long enough to finish what you start.
Uranus sesquare Neptune
You and your partner share the desire to combine spirituality and individuality
in your relationship. So you would not want to be limited by strict tenets.
Therefore, you probably would not join a conservative religion. But if you do,
one or both of you could be so rebellious that your spiritual needs will
probably not be met. Or possibly your ideas on spirituality change so
frequently that you cannot agree on a belief system and become confused by each
other’s inconsistency. So you become disillusioned and feel that you will never
attain spiritual gratification. If disillusion and confusion seem to plague
your relationship, try to use the energies in a different way. Use Neptune
energies to bring out imagination or artistry instead of spirituality. And
express Uranus through creativity instead of rebelliousness. Thus you are
making an effort to produce something artistic and creative together. And with
the pressure off spirituality, you might find a belief system on which you
agree.
Uranus square Pluto
With this combination, individuality, freedom, change and revolution are
connected with power and transformation. So together you and your partner are
capable of making great changes. However, with this aspect, it could take
effort to join forces. Either or both of you might have to overcome concern
that your partner is trying to control you. And if you feel overpowered by your
partner, you could begin to rebel. Or conversely you could believe your partner
thinks only of him or herself so you deem it necessary to take charge and lay
down the law. If either of these alternatives materialize, it could make you
ineffective when you are trying to assert power. Instead of battling each other
you should find a cause to share. Then you can launch a revolution together to
further your cause and make necessary changes. As you begin to see success, it
will become easier to cooperate and you will not feel threatened by your
partner, at least not so frequently.
Uranus semisquare North Node
With this combination, you and your partner are undoubtedly looking for groups
and/or causes that are exciting and challenging. You want to make changes and
know that your involvement has made a difference. Therefore, you are probably
often drawn to groups that are strange or causes that are unusual. Although you
want excitement and adventure, with these aspects, you might frequently find
yourselves in uncomfortable positions or with people who are embarrassing. Then
you may wish you had more control so that you could avoid such circumstances.
But you tend to initiate too quickly, and, therefore, you may not recognize you
all the implications of your actions until it is too late. However, your
spontaneity can be advantageous. Because, when you are uncomfortable you can
leave causes and people just as quickly as you joined them. This may make you
appear inconsistent, but it will keep life interesting for you as a couple.
Otherworldly Aspirations
Neptune offsets the limited, earthbound quality of Saturn in a different way,
by ascending to a completely different plane of reality. Coming from a place
that shimmers just beyond our reach, it carries with it a charismatic veil of
glamour, which can either enhance or muddle your relations with the world and
each other. The good thing is that Neptune can keep things softened and alive,
so you don’t get entrenched in Saturnine positions, and it can elevate the
nitty-gritty to a lofty and beautiful plane, creating gentleness and a
spiritual quality. The bad thing is that it can make communications unclear,
paralyze action, obliterate separate identity and make you anxious about
whether you can even function in this world. If you listen to what Neptune is
trying to tell you, though, it can make your relationship sublime and can
promote your joining at a soul level, enabling you to communicate wordlessly.
Neptune in the Tenth
If you and your partner share a career, it could be in the helping-healing
professionals, or in a field that is spiritually- oriented, involves artistry
or makes use of your imagination. But whether or not you work together, when
the you project yourselves into the outer world as a couple you may be viewed
as charismatic. Or possibly there is an enigmatic quality about the two of you
that makes your public image unclear. So that different people view you in
different ways, and some could simply find you confusing. This idea might upset
you because you do not want to be misunderstood. However, instead of being
upset you should look upon this as a blessing and use it to your advantage.
There may be times when a particular face will more appropriate than another
and you can use your talent to change your image as it suits you.
Neptune semisquare Pluto
You and your partner could share a deep and powerful spirituality. But this is
a generational combination and, therefore, you could also share spirituality
with anyone born within a few years of your partner. However, with this aspect
one of you could use power and/or manipulation to influence anyone with whom
you share the combination. And you might spend your time doing this. But, if
you recognize that this kind of behavior weakens your power and does little to
enhance your belief system, you might try another approach. Instead of
attempting to undermine each other, combine the power and the manipulation to
influence others. You might be surprised at how convincing the two of you can
be when you work together. And you may be so subtle that the people with whom
you are dealing might not even be aware of what you have done especially if
they are from different generations.
Neptune conjunct South Node
The relationships you and your partner share as a couple probably involve people
who are spiritual, creative or needy. There is also the possibility that these
associates are confused or confusing. If you frequently feel that those with
whom you interact take advantage of you or confuse you, you can back away from
these individuals. And look for those with whom you can share a belief system
to broaden yourselves spiritually. Or you might choose to interact with
creative people whose talents you can appreciate and who can help you to
develop your creativity. Thus you may avoid individuals who are helpless and
needy. But it is possible that even if those with whom you interact are
spiritual or creative you could still feel taken advantage of. If this is the
case, you and your partner should ask for something in return every time demands
are made of you. If you get something back, you will no longer feel victimized.
If you get no response, move on to another group.
Issues of Power
In every relationship there is the potential for a power struggle, and for
deeply felt emotions that can either bring about great schisms or move the two
of you into profound changes and growth. These awesome unconscious forces are
ruled by Pluto. The house where your composite Pluto resides can alert you to
the areas where you are most likely to exert your collective power on the
outside world and also to play out your own struggles for dominance. Any
aspects that Pluto makes (and most of these will be found above in connection
with earlier-mentioned planets) give more information about these struggles and
how to deal with them in your relationship. While Pluto can be experienced as
disrupting, there is also something very sexy about it, and once you understand
what is going on it can bring about the most profound changes and renewal.
Pluto in the Ninth
You and your partner could be leaders in the areas of politics, religion or
higher education so that you can exert power in the world. Or you might use
this placement more personally. You could have strong shared ideas on any or
all of these subjects and forcefully try to push them onto others. Or perhaps
your strong ideas are not shared and either or both of you try to control the
viewpoint of the other. In either of these cases, disagreement could lead to
violent eruptions. If you are frequently battling with each other you might
want to become active in a political, religious or educational group. You
should quickly find yourselves in positions of power. And feeling empowered
rather than threatened, may help you to discover ideas on which you agree. Then
you can present a united front and be more influential with outsiders,
including those who previously disagreed with you.
Pluto sesquare North Node
The relationships that you and your partner form as a couple are with people
who are powerful, or those who need leaders. If you find yourselves in the
company of those who are powerful, you do not want to give up your own power.
So you might spend a great deal of time trying to take control or to maintain
your position of authority. However, even if you take over or successfully
defend your position, the battle can weaken you. Then you may then want to
associate with people who you can lead without challenge. But you would not
have the respect for these individuals that you do for stronger people. You
could stay where you are and complain about the deficiencies of your
relationships. But another, and probably more satisfactory solution, is to have
two groups, one that you battle and the other that follows your lead. And you
can alternate between the two. So if you are weakened by combat with strong
adversaries, you can move to the other group and restore your power.
A Tool for Conscious Relationships
Hopefully, this report has increased your knowledge about the special strengths
and pitfalls of your relationship, and has given you some workable suggestions
about how to deal with the challenges and increase your level of happiness.
Just as relationships
develop and have their ups and downs, composite charts also develop over time.
This happens as the composite chart constantly receives transits from the
currently moving planets. It also happens as the natal charts of the two people
involved move forward by progression, constantly creating a new progressed
composite chart.
The natal composite chart
described in this report will, however, always describe the basic tone of your
relationship. You can change the houses and the positions of the Ascendant and
Midheaven by moving to a different place, but the signs of the planets and the
aspects between them will remain the same. So take them seriously, and know
that in astrology every problem carries within it its own unique wisdom or
solution.
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